Quynh Vo & Eric Edmeades – Public speaking secrets to delivering an amazing talk anytime, anywhere without memorizing anything.
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Secrets to Delivering an Amazing Talk Anytime, Anywhere, Without Having to Memorize Anything with with your host Quynh Vo and special guest Eric Edmeades.
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Hello, and welcome back to another session of the money mastery summit, my name is Quynh Vo I am your host.
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And next up is a special treat for you, because Eric Edmeades is an internationally recognized business speaker film producer and serial entrepreneur.
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Eric has very business backgrounds includes mobile computing, medical simulation, augmented reality, gaming, 3D camera engineering and Hollywood special effects.
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Eric is also the founder of wild fit and the creator of both inception marketing, which is a great great program and the business freedom.
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A business ownership methodology that empowers you to do to own a business that doesn’t own you but you know what today, he is here to share with you the secrets.
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of how to deliver an amazing signature talk anytime anywhere, without having to memorize anything, and you are just one time away from that.
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big success in your life and Eric i’m so happy to have you here on this call.
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hey thanks so much for having me it looks like you’ve put together a great group of people, but you know what i’ve noticed a lot of them are hiding with their cameras off have you noticed this.
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Look at Cal me and Brian and Carolyn and Charles and Cleric and lindy and you know.
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I find that guys get your cameras on and join in together like let’s let’s have some fun together here let’s do this and, by the way, Eric is the one person that can get you from camera shy to camera.
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what’s the word opposite of shied Eric like a star a camera shy to camera star how’s that there you go there, we go see a few people people it’s it’s a lot more fun when we get when we get a bunch of the hello, Caroline there you are.
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awesome hello, Brian well Quynh i’m really glad to be here i’ve got a got a casual you know format what I was thinking today is.
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I want to share some ideas about how we can use communication and speaking in front of an audience or a camera to help get our missions out to the world, but here’s here’s something that i’ve been sharing a lot this last couple years and I think that.
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it’s a sort of theory of mine, but that is that in our world today with the way the Internet is today, and the way cultural is today culture is it we.
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It is possible these days to design a talk and deliver that talk and have that talk change your whole life.
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it’s absolutely possible to have that happen, where you design a talk deliver that talk and that talk just creates all kinds of magic for you and.
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I want to put to you that I believe that there’s no skill more valuable in the professional business or personal world, for that matter.
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Then being really comfortable with getting your word out to the world, so I want to ask before we get started here if you guys can tell me in the chat.
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I want to know how nervous, you are about speaking, I want to start there like So if you have no nervousness you’re zero like you’re just walk on the stage, no problem walk in front of the camera no problem zero.
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And if you’re like a 10 well terrified so and then Where are you in the middle, I just want to know where everybody is in terms of their level of nurses, so we got some see your seven to 10, eight and nine one or two no problem.
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76714788 Okay, so you can see it’s all over the board it’s all over the board there’s some people not terrified other people totally terrified So the first thing I want to share with you is that nobody was born afraid of public speaking.
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Nobody was born That way, you know they weren’t you what happens is you’re born very comfortable with public speaking I can prove it to you, who here has been on a plane, with an 18 month old baby ever.
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Did that baby seem afraid of public speaking to you know right but somewhere after that 18 months somewhere, the two to three years to little bit more 12 years things happened in the life of that person and those things.
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condition them to be like nervous or afraid or holding back, and so what we want to do is see what causes those things and try to help people undo it because here’s The thing is there’s no real risk.
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Like if you think about it, we have all this fear oh my God i’m standing in front of this audience.
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What, what is the fear, are you afraid they’re going to decapitate you are, you are you worried that they’re going to throw things at you are you worried that.
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you’re gonna like nothing bad could actually happen, except maybe you could feel a little embarrassed or something it’s not that big a deal.
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But, for some reason, because we learned in school largely to be afraid of public speaking we carry that fear with us today does this make sense over to give me give me give me hands up here if this makes sense.
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Alright alright cool so I want to talk a little bit about how to overcome that fear so everybody can start to feel a little bit better one of the things is.
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I really want to understand that nervousness and excitement are basically the same thing they’re basically the same emotion there’s one big difference between nervousness and excitement, and this is the difference nervousness.
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Is excitement with a negative expectation.
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and excitement is nervousness with a positive expectation.
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Otherwise they’re basically the same the same physiological conditions, the heart racing the breathing fast that sweaty palms you know, whatever they’re basically the same emotion in the physical body, but the difference is what you’re picturing in your head so.
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How many guys have ever been thinking about something in your future and you’ve managed to make yourself so excited that you can feel it in your body, even though the event isn’t there yet who’s been ever managed to do that.
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yeah all right who’s ever done this one, though there’s an event out there in the future and you’ve managed to terrify yourself about that event in the future, how many of you have ever made it you just completely terrified yourself.
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And then, how many of you have been gone into the event and found out that nothing even close to your terror happened.
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Right and then how many of you have done this over and over and over again, expecting somehow that you expect it to be terrifying and then it isn’t terrifying and then you do it again who’s done it more than once.
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Alright, so I want you to think about the sense of this because I really want to get across this point that.
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Your comfort with public speaking.
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Is everything to do with your quality of life.
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you’re comfortable your comfort with communication has everything to do with your quality of life, the more comfortable, you are to say what you need to say, the more comfortable, you are to say what needs to be said, the more satisfying your life experience will be.
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And I think this is an incredibly incredibly important point I I I don’t know if you I mean how many of you want to write a book one day i’m curious how many of you like to write a book.
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Okay i’ll tell you right now.
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You can write a book you’re going to need to be a speaker just how it is you’re going to need to be on radio and on podcasts and on TV.
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you’re going to be doing talks at events you’re going to want to be a public speaker best possible way to sell your books.
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How many of you are entrepreneurs or want to be entrepreneurs, you might want to start a business one day.
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Great you need to be a public speaker, you need to be able to talk to your staff, you need to raise money from investors, you know you need to be able to communicate effectively.
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And I could keep going because I don’t care what job you have what business, you have what project, you have what social thing you want to accomplish.
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If you’re an effective communicator it’s going to accelerate the process right now you are one talk away from some major breakthrough.
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I don’t know what the breakthrough is for you.
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Your one takeaway from a best selling book your one takeaway from a documentary from getting an agent you’re one talk away from a huge fee or one talk away.
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from launching your career raising money for your company launching a political career starting an environmental movement.
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If you give that one talk and you give it really well, you can change everything there’s some great examples this.
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You have Simon senate goes off and does a tedx talk and it just goes out to millions of people, and all of a sudden who’s speaking fees are up and he’s got best selling books.
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And brennan brown same thing off she goes massive tedx talk victory now she’s got multiple New York Times bestsellers and an incredible consulting career and i’m not saying they didn’t put other work in.
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i’m saying that the talk is what made the difference that the talk was a tipping point moment that the skill to be able to present like that is a major major asset does this make sense, everybody you guys in yeah.
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Alright, so here’s what I thought that I would share with you, is, I want to share with you.
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I want to share with you a story about one of the talks that I did and it’s kind of a fun story, but it has some moments in it that might give you some tips about how to how to get better and comfortable with speaking and and and here’s basically what happened is that my father.
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first thing I have to explain is that my father’s in alcoholics anonymous now i’m not supposed to tell you that, because you know anonymous right.
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Right, but he tells everybody, so I think it’s okay to tell you like, he he wrote an article for the Saturday evening post to all over the world, in his name like i’m not blowing his anonymity here, he blows it all the time.
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So so since I am allowed to tell you, since I feel allowed to tell you that I can tell you that he called me one day at my at my office and he said um.
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I need you to come and give me my a birthday cake at my meeting and i’m like absolutely not like no way, am I doing that, not in a million years.
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Why did I don’t want to do it because I was terrified of public speaking I there’s no way I was to standing in front of 200 people to giving a talk, no.
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No way not going to happen and, by the way, when you really afraid of something are usually good at coming up with good excuses.
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yeah my excuse first excuse i’m not a member of a you have to be a Member to speak at a meeting is this a good excuse.
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yeah I think so, but he’s like yeah but they’d probably make an exception, you know because you’re my son and everything else, and then I was like well here’s my next excuse, but i’m busy that day anyway, and then he pointed out that he hadn’t even told me which day it was so.
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that’s the problem right and and he kept persisting and kept pushing but I I just said no, and then he called me back about three days later, by the way, there’s a little clue here.
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He calls me say on Monday, asked me to speak at his meeting, I think it was gonna be that Sunday and basically I can’t hold food down I can’t eat i’m terrified, even though I said no.
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Why is that if you think you know the answer put in the chat i’ve said no, but i’m still terrified i’m still nervous why.
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Why am I nervous, even though I said no.
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yeah you will still be doing it well i’ve said no, so I don’t believe that i’m still going to be doing it, what else Why else might, I feel that way well i’ll tell you.
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Because I was terrified that I might change my mind.
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You understand because, as you said, Gabriel, because I kind of on some level wanted to do it, and I was terrified that I might change my mind.
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And and that’s why I would get sick right up until the event was gone and anyway, so my dad called me one day he’s like.
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You gotta do it man it’s like you got my sponsors out of town my best friend is out of town you got to do it and i’m like well no i’m not doing it, he goes Eric come on it’s not a big one.
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What do you mean it’s not a big one, he goes well it’s like the 15th it’s not the 15th it’s a 13th like you know it’s not like.
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it’s not like number 10 or number five or number 15 it’s not a big one, and I started thinking to myself.
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wow dude you just don’t understand sobriety at all like.
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Every single day is just important as the last day except the only day that might be more important is day one after that every single day of sobriety is it, and here I am feeling all this passionate about this.
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And as soon as I had enough passion my mouth said to him okay we’ll do it we’ll do it will give you the cake on what we said that.
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And one of the things I learned in that moment is that when you are really when you really get some passion about your message it becomes easier to deliver the message.
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it’s a big deal, the more passion, you have the more obstacles, you can overcome, and so my passion got me over my fear now it didn’t end the fear it just got me over it enough to agree to do it now now I was terrified, and so I show up.
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I show up for this meeting and I sit, where do I sit back row why thinking of leaving.
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i’m seriously thinking of leaving so I got to sit at the back row because I might be out of here, I might be in Las Vegas in four hours i’m out i’m leaving man I don’t want to be here and and then and then also i’m sitting back there and I find out.
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it’s, just like the classroom right who sits at the back of the classroom the bad boys isn’t it true.
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bad boys and girls sit at the back of the classroom so i’m back there and I discovered that there are in fact bad boy sitting back there, and you know who they are, and you can tell me if this is.
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Encouraging or alarming you tell me but there’s a lot of airline pilots in a.
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there’s a lot of them like there’s a lot of them i’m like this is either incredibly good news, or very disturbing i’m not i’m not sure which it is but but here’s what I found out about these pilots.
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they’re crazy people back there they’re like they’re like drummers in rock bands they’re like they’re crazy people they’re making jokes, and so I.
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i’m thinking to myself my God they’re making jokes about the speaker and they’re going to do the same thing to me so i’m feeling even worse.
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i’m like I don’t want to go anywhere near this this is awful and then oh my God, how many of you guys have seen the movie Groundhog day who seen it.
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Anybody okay it doesn’t matter if you seen it or not, it’s just that there’s this one character in the movie his name is NED ryerson.
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And he’s like this, this cartoon of an American insurance salesman a typical sleazy you know and and and in the movie the stars movie keeps pumping into the same insurance salesman every day like keep pumping into them well.
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The guy who went up to speak right before me at the a meeting he looked more and he act more like NED ryerson than the actor, who is playing NED ryerson it was like it was it was incredible but here’s the real here think about this.
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I didn’t know this, but this guy only ever showed up at a meetings once a year to get his cake.
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Can you can you imagine, can you imagine how the Members feel about him do you think they like him much.
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Do they think they respect them a great deal, no, but you see, I don’t know this All I know is I can feel the tension in the room, like.
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I can feel the audience sending a negative vibes and i’m like my God these guys are awful they are vicious because I don’t know why they feel this way about him I can just feel it and i’m like i’m next.
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i’m the next one to face this like this is terrible.
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And so now you got net up there and NED NED has he just at that time of his life, he just had no class he standing up there, he goes hi my name is NED and i’m an alcoholic and then everybody goes.
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High net you know, like they’re supposed to and then no kidding he just he starts talking like he’s like a lounge X in Vegas or something he’s like.
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So I just got back from Las Vegas or Los Angeles, he said I just got back from Los Angeles, I said, he said, has anybody here ever been to Los Angeles before like this is not an a talk.
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What he’s doing it’s not part of the culture it’s not right it’s just it’s wrong it’s all his own significance he’s like he’s doing is trying to do a bad stand up routine.
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And like nobody raises their hand when he says Has anybody been to La nobody raises their hand because they’ve all been to La but they know what he’s doing is not part of the culture, except this one woman.
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her hand starts going up, I think all by itself she’s looking at it, what are you doing what are you doing right now, why are you doing this and her hands going up like this, and he sees the hand and he goes.
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Oh you’ve been to La.
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How cool is that my brother I stayed with my brother and he lives in this apartment above the corner store and if you go into the apartment and you go all the way to the back window and then you lean out over the balcony you can see the Hollywood sign and the distance.
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Why are you telling us this.
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Is what this is not an a sharing.
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This is not the way we do things around here i’m, not even a Member and I know look unless the story continues like this, so I jumped off the balcony and I ran over to the Hollywood sign I climbed up onto the H, and I drink a bottle of tequila okay now it’s in a story, but.
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it’s not an a story without that it’s just some guy boosting his own significance to the stupid travel story that’s all it is right, anyway, he finishes his talk, and this is the applause he gets.
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And i’m next.
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i’m next i’m going oh my God the room that tension in the room, the pilots are making fun of him the energy and and i’m next and i’m like oh.
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I just want to leave I don’t know how I didn’t leave I don’t know I don’t know how I didn’t leave but I walk up and there’s a podium.
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Right i’m holding on to the podium Why am I holding on the podium because it’s preventing the falling over like i’m i’m so dizzy from fear that I think i’m going to just go punk onto the stage and i’m holding on and my legs are shaking.
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And then I got a problem because you see at an A meeting you’re supposed to say hi my name is blank and i’m an alcoholic but i’m not an alcoholic.
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I just I even said to my dad I can’t do this i’m not I I can’t come and speak i’m not a Member, and he goes well, he goes, do you drink.
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He knows I don’t know I don’t drink and he goes well, then you qualify and I go man I don’t think you understand alcoholism, the fact that I don’t drink does not mean i’m an alcoholic I.
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think you got it backwards here, but now i’m standing up on stage and I gotta say hi my name is Eric and i’m not an alcoholic and then I know that, like 50% of they’re going to go he’s in denial.
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You know I got what am I supposed to do and i’m standing up there and i’m freaking out and I don’t know what to do and I don’t know where it comes from, but I suddenly get this in my head.
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This like American courtroom drama, you know it’s like hey did you know that somehow that POPs into my head and I go like this, I go hi my name is Eric and my father was an alcoholic.
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I made this huge accusation, and they all busted out laughing because it was all this tension in the room right and laughing is like the orgasm of the brain.
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And so suddenly I gave them this incredible laugh, and all the tension in the room went away and, by the way.
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I felt better to didn’t I how many of you have had that experience you’re doing some kind of presentation or talk and you trigger some laughter and then you feel better who’s done that.
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Right, I learned that day break the ice with something funny break the ice if you break the ice everybody feels better.
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So now i’m up there and I kind of and, by the way, once you make them laugh ones don’t you feel a little bit more brave.
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Right like humor is a risk, so now i’ve taken one risk and it worked may as well take some risks and pretty soon i’m jumping through my talk and i’m talking about you know.
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i’m talking about like how valuable a is and i’m like you know I, so I told him i’m so nervous I didn’t want to do this, my dad pressured me to do it.
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But in the end, the reason I offered to do it is because he explained to me that it was this 13 cake and that’s not a big deal compared to 10 or 15.
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And I said I got to tell you that, as a child of an alcoholic.
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I don’t care what number of days or years or months, you have every single day that you’re not drinking is an important day in my calendar and that’s the way it is.
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And then I said, my dad has been in this program for 13 years I said, my boss, is in the program would even have my job if the program hadn’t saved his life I said, my best friend who’s sitting over there he’s in the Program.
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I said, even my brother, all the way in Tokyo is in the program Has anybody here ever been to Tokyo.
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And I just did that, just a little reference you got me, are you with me Glenn just there right and what I had done is called a call back.
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So one of my clues for you is anytime you’re at a conference and you’re speaking, you want to hear the speakers that are on before you.
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Because they’re going to sometimes give you a little bits of information that will make your experience find a year or more powerful.
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It just really is helpful so because i’d heard the previous speaker, I was able to make a little joke, and it was so funny I once they because this is what happened, I go Has anybody ever been to Tokyo and they all knew what I was doing and they all kind of went.
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Like ooh that was kind of naughty and then I just got I just got like I just got all into it, this one woman that she raises her hand, you know she’s been to Tokyo.
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You been to Tokyo well my brother he lives in this store and it goes at the top, and if you go all the way to the back bedroom and you lean over the balcony and.
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I by the time I didn’t even know what I was going to say because there’s clearly know Hollywood sign, but the thing is it didn’t matter, because the audience was laughing so loud they couldn’t even hear me anymore.
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Oh man, it was awful one of the one of the pilots, one of the pilots was on the floor, he fell out of his chair he’s like felt like it was awful and and then and then anyway, then I finished up my whole talk.
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And I learned some really important things.
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Because out of 200 people about 80 of them came up to me to talk to me afterwards.
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And all of them said to me Eric that’s one of the best talks we’ve ever had here, it was funny it was Poignant, it was just incredible, would you please come back and speak again hell no i’m not doing that.
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No way, am I doing that i’m sitting there feeling I feel like saying the reason i’m not answering right now is I vomit in my mouth like don’t I.
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i’m still terrified I don’t want to be here, but here’s the really here’s the thing I want you guys to try to there’s a big breakthrough, I can share with you right now.
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As much as every single one of them, told me, it was one of the best talks they saw they loved it, it was funny it was powerful important and Poignant all that stuff I didn’t believe any of them.
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Can anybody tell me why I didn’t believe in the chat tell me if you can know in the chat why didn’t I believe all the positive praise that was coming why didn’t I believe.
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Glenn says my mindset was wrong sure that’s not bad it’s not the answer but it’s it’s on the right track, why wouldn’t I believe yeah get your beliefs, are part of it there’s a really specific reason, though there’s a really specific reason I gave you a clue earlier on in this talk.
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Why am I not believing them, let me ask you a different question.
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What did I do earlier to make so many people want to come and tell me how good I did what did I do earlier that made so many of them want to come and tell me what a good job they did.
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I told them, I was nervous.
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Now, listen to me about this.
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If you admit that you’re nervous then they’re going to come and tell you how well, you did.
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You understand.
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And you’re not going to believe them because it’s simply going to be sympathy, because you know that you only told them you’re nervous to get sympathy.
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So now you go i’m so nervous about this and I don’t feel like a born public speaker and then they come up to you after and they’re like oh my God irma Michael Glenn Gabriel you’re so good and you’re going.
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you’re just saying that because I admitted, I was nervous Do you understand what i’m saying here guys.
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You never admit that you’re nervous and you know I had somebody say to me once because i’m a big fan of you being you authentically you on the stage you being authentically you on the stage right okay if that’s true.
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And what about when I tell you, not to say you’re nervous isn’t it isn’t it authentic to admit you’re nervous isn’t that authentic.
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And I want you to know no because nervousness itself is in authentic there’s no danger up there, so why are you nervous and here’s one of the reasons, because in school, you were taught a few things one, the harder you make something look the more praise and reward you get for it.
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Think about this, if you were very good at math and you got a’s in math your parents started accepting that you should get a’s in math so a’s were no longer a big deal.
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you’re just supposed to get an A but if you’ve been getting like sees in French, for all these years and then all of a sudden, you get an A you get all the praise right.
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You get praise for the stuff that came hardest to you and the stuff that gets easiest you don’t get the praise the same way.
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If you take on a homework assignment and it was so easy for you, you don’t get the same kind of praise, if you can demonstrate how hard you worked on it.
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So we’ve learned to make things harder than they really are so that we can attract more praise except, then the problem is, we don’t totally believe the praise because we’re adults now and we know that we’re being manipulated, so it doesn’t work anymore.
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So what do you do instead you walk on stage and you tell them you’re about to kick some butt.
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You tell them that you’re about to show some incredible things that you’re going to.
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That you’re going to deliver an incredible talk you catch their attention at the beginning, and yes, now, instead of 80 people, it might only be 40 people that come and talk to me, but you know what all 40 of them are going to be impressed.
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And they’re going to be truthful and i’m going to believe them does this make sense to all you guys, are you with me.
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Okay now there’s one person I did believe that day there’s one person, I believe that day, who do you think that was one person came up and gave me praise and I believe them who do you think it was.
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It was not my dad.
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It was not my dad here’s the thing why because my dad has to do that doesn’t he.
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He knows that I was terrified he knows that I was nervous, so of course he’s going to come and tell me oh my God Eric it was amazing I could have bombed and he’s going to tell me, it was good, I don’t believe him.
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NED ryerson the guy that I made fun of i’m standing there, and all these people are coming to talk to me and then all of a sudden, I see NED walking across the room and i’m like oh my God I can’t believe I did that to him.
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And like I was such a jerk I didn’t mean to be I just got caught up in the humor of it, I felt so bad and NED walks up to me and he walks right up to me, holds his hand out and he says that talk was outstanding.
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holy do I believe him damn right he has no reason to be nice to me after what I did right, so I of course believe him and then he said this, he goes that talks about sending goes and plus.
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I got the message, thank you.
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And I believed him that I did a great job, nobody else, so we don’t admit anybody that were nervous now let’s just talk about something else about speaking did I need any notes to tell you what I just told you.
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Know does it look to you like i’m reading a slides or notes or anything no Why did I not need notes, because I was just remembering what happened.
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The best talks in the world will never require notes from you.
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Never need you to use notes or slides or anything like that I just did that whole thing it took about 12 to 15 minutes.
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And it was one story about giving my dad as a cake, but it taught you for or shared with you four or five really valuable things about being a speaker don’t let them know you’re nervous.
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get a laugh right at the front end, etc, etc, like it it’s one story that teaches multiple points and and, by the way, here’s my here’s my question for you.
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Quynh Vo: Do you think there’s a chance that you will remember what I shared with you today, better than if I just told you, the four points.
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Quynh Vo: How many of you think you’ll remember it better because it came in a story that’s right because stories are the key they are the absolute key.
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Quynh Vo: To putting information into somebody’s head emotion emotion is the glue that causes memories to stick if you don’t make somebody feel they’re not going to remember this is make sense.
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Alright, so I want to show you something else, so that.
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I really want you to think about something it’s very important.
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How far, could you go.
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What are your dreams.
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If you let go of what you think the limits of the world are, what do you think you could achieve.
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How many of you that are on this call with me right now have ever done something that the younger version of you thought was impossible, how many of you have done something that the younger okay there we go quite a few look just about everybody.
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So my question then becomes When did we start accepting impossible as a thing.
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Because when we’re young we just impossible just meant impossible right now and then eventually we’re going to overcome it but as we get older impossible starts becoming this absolute thing like.
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Some people think it’s at you might think it’s impossible for you to have a New York Times bestseller or some of you think it’s impossible for you to write a book or impossible to start a bit.
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sort of business but it’s not this is exactly the kind of area where your your mind and your decision has everything to do with your experience of life.
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You becoming comfortable with being you and you becoming comfortable sharing stories and you becoming comfortable talking to a camera or to an audience, or what have you.
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could be one of the biggest gifts you ever give yourself, one of the biggest gifts you ever give yourself and so.
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I want to share a skill with you that I think will really help.
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When I told that story about the a birthday, how much vocal range did I give you.
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Did I tell the whole story in one tone of voice, I want to tell you about the time my dad invited me to speak at a meeting I didn’t want to go, because I was so scared.
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He kept persisting and telling me that he really want to be there, eventually, I had this moment, where I realized that I had a good reason to speak so I agreed to do it and I went to the eight.
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i’m making fun, but come on how many of you have been to the webinar or even I live conference and some of the speakers were just like that who’s been to that conference right they’re out there they’re out there, but what that means is you need to think of it like this.
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If that person is on the stage.
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How hard, would it be for you to get on that stage, because if that’s the standard.
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Then you don’t have to do very much to be better than that you really don’t.
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You just have to be you and when somebody becomes comfortable with being themselves everything begins to change everything because hey, I can tell you that.
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We humans we’ve been sitting around fires for millions of years telling stories and and enjoying you know learning from each other.
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Learning as we sat around the fires and and hearing hunting stories and war stories and love stories we learned a great deal sitting around the fire and as a result today.
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We really like stories and, by the way we like our stories to be quite formulaic mean we don’t want them to be too different from each other.
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i’m going to i’m going to tell you a story right now and in the chat I want you to tell me what the name of the story is, are you guys ready you’re going to guess this story.
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Okay i’ll say certain facts and then you get the story, and you can make more than one guest, because you might I might drop a new fact and you think oh actually maybe it’s a different story So here we go Fact number one.
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Fact number three is growing up with a relative like an uncle or somebody who’s not very nice to him come on what stories this guy’s let’s see the guesses haven’t had any guesses yet can’t give you more facts without more guesses.
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Oh Batman Pinocchio David copperfield interesting, so our young are young man meets at Harry Potter interesting any okay our young man meets an old man with a beard.
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And the old man with a beard shows him that he has some special skills that other people don’t have.
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King Arthur Harry Potter.
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Quynh Vo: Lord of the Rings merlin there’s your old man with the beard how about obi wan kenobi in Star Wars, are we are you seeing the pattern here guys.
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Quynh Vo: it’s that story is all of those stories that story is all of those stories they’re not original it’s because humans, like their stories to me here’s another example.
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superheroes all of them every one of them are orphans.
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Quynh Vo: I don’t know if you’ve ever thought about that, before, but they are Batman Superman wonder woman they’re all they’re all orphans or de facto orphans like in the case of wonder woman.
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Quynh Vo: I don’t think your mother’s actually dead, but she’s banished ever from going back to the island so she’s an orphan she can’t see your mother, like every superhero is an orphan.
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Quynh Vo: And by the way, what else do they have in common, well they’re never there never they never have money now there’s some exceptions so we’ll talk about that a minute, but generally superheroes are not rich.
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Quynh Vo: There are some superheroes are rich Who are they does anybody know who are the rich superheroes.
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Quynh Vo: yeah batman’s one of them for sure Batman definitely is one of the rich superheroes iron man he’s a rich superhero Those are the main two and then there’s also green arrow but here’s something about those three.
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Quynh Vo: You understand you’re being conditioned when you watch the superhero Sir you’re being conditioned like Peter Parker sitting at the table with his uncle and his uncle Peter Parker being spider man, of course, and his uncle says to him, Peter.
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Quynh Vo: And that’s like we are stories are like formulas, we like to stick with them now, the BAT The good news is once you can start to spot the formulas, you can begin to you know figure them out for yourself but here’s here’s what’s really special though as a speaker.
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Quynh Vo: stories are your ultimate ultimate ultimate tool they’re the best way to teach the best way to create engagement they’re the best way to get in you know there it’s just the very best way to get information out to people.
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Quynh Vo: And so I want to give you some clues about how to put a talk together and then maybe we can do some Q amp a.
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Quynh Vo: So here’s, the first thing, how many of you have ever written out one of your talks like you’ve written it out, word for word i’m getting ready to do a talk i’m writing it out who’s ever done that okay so let’s listen carefully hold on never ever ever do that again.
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Quynh Vo: Just just just don’t do that never, never, never, never ever write your talk out never ever ever ever ever write your talk out and i’ll tell you why right now.
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Quynh Vo: If you write your talk out if you write it out like word for word, you write the talk out then your brain will try to memorize the words you wrote.
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I went up onto the stage and I grab both sides of the podium You see, you would try to talk and completed people don’t talk the same way, they write, is it true.
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So if you write it all out you’re going to end up speaking the way you write and nobody wants to hear that.
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You have an entirely different situation because you have you’ve got a circumstance, where you don’t have a bunch of notes you’ve got a map that you can see, when you close your eyes so i’m going to show you a little bit like what a speech map looks like Okay, so you guys get an example.
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Quynh Vo: liddy you’re right Thor is an exception, but he’s not actually superhero he’s a God, so he doesn’t totally qualify right he’s a God doesn’t totally qualify and and the black panther has no superpowers.
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Quynh Vo: He has no superpowers at all he’s he’s a he’s a fraud, like the other rich superheroes they buy their privileges likely there’s no they don’t have There is one exception, if you want to dig into it.
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Quynh Vo: And that is this that the incredibles the incredibles the kids have parents that are still alive right but they don’t have grandparents.
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Quynh Vo: And by the way, you know here’s something else i’m sitting watching the movie frozen with my wife one day I don’t know how she managed to get me to do that, but here I am sitting watching frozen.
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Quynh Vo: And and and all of a sudden little Elsa Ursula I don’t know what an Elsa Elsa sitting there and I don’t know what happens, but she gets mad she has some kind of little temper tantrum and she’s wow, and all this ice comes flying out of it right.
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Quynh Vo: They have to because he’s a superhero what happens 18 minutes later in the movie that that’s that parents it’s formulaic it’s formulaic but let’s let’s talk a lot about let’s let’s go to this idea of a speech map so when we’re designing speech map.
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Quynh Vo: One of the things that I like to do is I like to use a notepad or a whiteboard or something like that, and I put the topic in the middle.
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Quynh Vo: I put the topic in the middle, to remind me what i’m doing and then from there i’m going to go up and i’m going to deliver what we call an F 15.
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Quynh Vo: that’s the beginning of my talk so i’m going to introduce myself i’m going to drop some kind of icebreaker story and then i’m going to tell them what to talk is all about want to get them excited.
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Quynh Vo: Once i’ve done that i’m not gonna tell some kind of story that makes a point right i’m going to tell some kind of story that makes a point.
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Quynh Vo: Then i’m going to tell i’m going to give them another point, maybe, and then tell a story to help make that point.
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Quynh Vo: Because, as I said, emotions are the glue that cause memory to six, so we want to make sure that we use stories because they create emotion and that way they’ll remember what we’re trying to teach them right.
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Quynh Vo: So then, once we’ve done that we’re then going to maybe use a longer story over here and that one story might tell many different points like I did with the a story.
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Quynh Vo: Is the landing and it’s really important to get the landing right because you have absolutely need to end on time and your speaker it’s important that you end on time.
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Quynh Vo: And so, one of the ways it’s great to end on time, is that you plan your ending, and you know how long it takes.
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Quynh Vo: So if you know that you have a three minute ending, and then you can see the clock says, you have five minutes ago, you know that, within the next two minutes you need to start your ending.
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Quynh Vo: And then you’ll end on time and every producer in the world are like you here’s here’s a trick question for you you’re standing on the stage there’s 500 people on stage in front of you who.
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Quynh Vo: Who is your client the audience that’s in front of you or the producer who’s managing the show who is your client tell me in the chatter who is your client the audience or the producer.
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May gabrielle 100% right absolutely Glenn they the producer is the client, the only time the audience is the client is in the audience bought the tickets for you so, for example, right now, none of you are my client in this situation Quynh, is my client.
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i’m not here for you i’m here for her and and then, in order to serve her i’m giving to you she’s the client, but if it was my webinar then you’d be my client does this make sense.
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All right, so anyway that’s when we use a speech map like this one of the things that it gives us is.
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You you don’t have to remember that many things it’s kind of like one way to think of it is like if a band is getting ready to perform a concert they don’t if they’ve been around for a long time they don’t need to practice they know their songs well.
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Excuse me, what are your songs your stories.
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And so now you’ve got this talk and you go well i’m telling three stories, what do I need to know I just I know what.
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I remember three things three stories I don’t have to memorize notes I don’t have to think about the words I just need to tell those three stories, let me tell you guys some.
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Of you if you had told me, you know all those years ago.
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You know that i’d be invited by Tony robbins to come and teach business at his business mastery programs, this is this year is Tony introducing me onstage.
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At an event in Fiji, if you had told me that I would never ever have believed you.
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and spend a week with me to do a life planning session with them if you told me that, five, six years ago you’re like no way it’s insane Why would no no they’re not doing that.
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If you had told me all those years ago that I was going to get the stand and perform in front of thousands and thousands and thousands of people all over the world.
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Quynh Vo: I would never ever have believed you and you know if you were to tell me that one day I was going to get a letter from the Canadian Government.
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Quynh Vo: And they’re asking me to come to Canada and and and get a medal from the Senate.
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Quynh Vo: For the work that i’m doing impacting lives from people around the world, I would never have believed you, but I can tell you this none of those things would have happened.
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Quynh Vo: If I hadn’t got over my stuff if I hadn’t got over my fears and I hadn’t pushed forward and got myself the practice and decided that I wanted to be good at communicating.
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Quynh Vo: But I want you to hear me about something, because I know some of you, especially if you if you know me at all.
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Quynh Vo: Or if you listen to Quynh you’ll be like Oh well, of course, Eric can do all those things because he’s Eric but i’m telling you that 10 years ago I.
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Quynh Vo: I wasn’t there, I mean Okay, I was technically still Eric but I was very different Eric back then.
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Quynh Vo: You know and, and so I just want you to know that you don’t need to worry about who you are right now, you need to worry about.
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Quynh Vo: where you want to go, you need to open up, in my opinion, you to open up your spence your your expansion for greater belief, because if you can believe just a little bit better just a little bit more than you’ll.
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Quynh Vo: start to spot the opportunities that can make all the difference for you so i’m hoping that this has given you some both inspiration and some tools that you can use to get out there and I want to leave you with a couple last thoughts about this.
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Again, want to tell you that there is no skill.
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Quynh Vo: There is no skill anywhere in the world that can help you leverage your existing knowledge your existing business your existing opportunities, better than speaking nothing.
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Quynh Vo: Nothing is the ultimate marketing guys think about this, one of my companies, some of you might be familiar with wild fit I started off coaching eight people at a time.
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Quynh Vo: Now we have classes that sometimes have 1000 plus people in one class we’ve had 25,000 students in 130 countries around the world.
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Quynh Vo: We have coaches in 40 countries around the world, the business is only five years old.
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Quynh Vo: it’s incredible what we’ve accomplished during that time, and I would tell you that a big part of it is that I waited to start the business until after I became comfortable public speaking.
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Quynh Vo: I think if i’d done it before it would have been a totally different journey does this make sense to you guys, are you guys with me.
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Quynh Vo: So thing number one is becoming comfortable and confident and public speaking can completely change your life.
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Quynh Vo: thing number two is I want you to go out and get practice I don’t care where you get it go to toastmasters.
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Quynh Vo: When when when coves over and we can get the speaker nation clubs up and running, go to speaker nation club go to the lions club any go anywhere, will the listen and just get some practice just get and, by the way.
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Quynh Vo: How else can you practice Facebook live instagram live.
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Quynh Vo: just turn it on and start talking and I know some you’re like oh my God somebody might be watching.
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Quynh Vo: that’s why it’s awesome because if you just record it the camera you’ll be tempted to stop every time you make a mistake when you’re live you can’t do that and that’s a much better training for public speaking.
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Quynh Vo: So you guys have the real ability to get the practice that you need in a variety of different ways, even during the lockout.
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Quynh Vo: And, and I wonder, I want you to remember don’t let don’t let them know you’re nervous don’t ever let them know you’re nervous.
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Quynh Vo: I also want to remind you, you use an icebreaker at the beginning of the talk to really make sure that you loosen up the audience and get them here and then last I will remind you always be in the room.
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Quynh Vo: For the speakers that are coming on before you so you have the opportunity to feel the energy of the room and find out any topics that they talked about that you might want to stay away from or or touch on our use for humor.
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Quynh Vo: And lastly, use the speech map instead of writing out your notes you create a map.
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Quynh Vo: where you have a tell a story make a point tell a story make a point, and then you have so little to remember that you’re just going to flow through map and one more thing on the map.
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Quynh Vo: Is that your map will give you a level of time flexibility that no other system would, if you write your talks out and suddenly to go Eric can you stay on stage for an extra 15 minutes, then you’re only answered that point is to speak more slowly, so that you can use the team.
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Quynh Vo: Like that’s all you got to use a speech map you realize Oh well, i’m just telling my story about the time the rhinos tried to kill me in Africa, I can just tell a bigger I can I can drag the story out for 10 minutes it’s super fun and exciting and so.
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Quynh Vo: The power of using not only don’t do it anymore, is that you have complete time flexibility when somebody comes to you and says hey can you cut up you know when.
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Quynh Vo: you’re scheduled to speak for 45 minutes, can you cut 15 minutes off most speakers have a meltdown at this point yeah flew all this way I can’t believe you would do this i’m talking professional speakers, they have meltdowns you know what I say when that happens.
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And at first, they often think i’m a little crazy because speakers are supposed to be prima donnas or something, but in the end they get it.
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Quynh Vo: i’m not going to blow up about it i’m not going to freak out about it i’m not even going to address with it until I know whether or not it’s true it’s like.
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Quynh Vo: Are you guys with me on this now here’s what I want to suggest to you is that thing about getting the practice, the first episode of practice is going to be the worst.
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Quynh Vo: The first time you go to a toastmasters club that’s the toughest day but you know it’s really great the second one is easier and the third one is easier.
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Quynh Vo: So i’m hoping you guys will go out and get a bunch of practice and then and then last last thing about this, you have a massive advantage over what I had you have a huge advantage over me.
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Quynh Vo: You have people out there that are willing to teach this stuff when I started off it was really hard to find anybody who’s teaching this stuff here is the basic Dale Carnegie tech courses and stuff like that, but there was no YouTube.
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Quynh Vo: I couldn’t go it now, I can go watch Martin Luther King jr I can go and watch john F Kennedy I can go watch Barack Obama, I can go watch some of the best speakers in the world anytime I like so, can you.
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comedians so, can you, you can go learn from these people right here, right now and then, of course, you can go out and find yourself some courses there’s lots of courses, these days, you can find them on masterclass and teachable and what have you.
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Like I saw this one woman doing a Ted talk on public speaking, it was the five keys to giving a great talk and you guys she didn’t use one of the keys.
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i’m not kidding she talked through all five keys without using them at all, so what I want you to know is that.
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You want somebody that can hook you like that you want them to teach you and what you don’t want to some speaker trainer.
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So, with all of that said i’m up to do some I don’t know how much time we’ve got left queen but i’m happy to answer some questions if one I would love for you to answer the questions because first of all, the next thing is our lunch break, so I.
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Can you spend a few extra time instead I can do a little bit sure let’s do some questions awesome awesome so first of all, you know what guys.
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um you know when it comes to public speaking and I told you i’ll share with you, and that is probably the one important skill that you need to master the most it will most likely explode your business the fastest.
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Quynh Vo: And there’s all kinds of different courses and trainers on how to do public speaking out there.
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Quynh Vo: The only one and i’ve been to many okay and i’m coaching that myself i’m in a program coaching that myself, the only one, I know of that can teach you.
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Quynh Vo: How to do your talk without memorizing anything and how you can do it authentically and engaging the way that Eric can do.
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Quynh Vo: It takes practice, but he has the blueprint, he has a system that teach you how to do that and, unfortunately, he cannot do it in like a 60 minutes talk.
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Quynh Vo: So I actually I attended eric’s event it’s a five day course it blew me away, and I have been to many trainers.
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Quynh Vo: And so right now Eric has a program it’s a bit different Eric the product that you’re doing right now is a workshop.
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Quynh Vo: Actually really cool you guys like here’s what happened.
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Quynh Vo: We were, we have our two big live events and they sell out every year in advance, and they were you know the one was already sold out, and the second one was almost sold out and then coven 19 hit mid March and are like.
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Quynh Vo: holy crap I don’t think these events are going to happen, we had a big webinar scheduled and the webinar is designed to sell more tickets for this live event but now there is not going to be a live event So what do we do.
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Quynh Vo: And I have been working on this book called one talk away, and it was going to come with a workshop three day workshop on helping people design their box and.
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Quynh Vo: So I went to the team and said why don’t we do that now like why don’t we just like advertise that right now, at this webinar.
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Quynh Vo: And you know we’ll just we’ll just get the one talk workshop happening like right now.
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Quynh Vo: And so we reject the webinar and and then, and then we were stupid, we set the price way too low, because, like coven 19 man, we didn’t know.
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Quynh Vo: We didn’t know what to do, we wanted to help everybody, but we have a business to run, we have employees to be like.
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Quynh Vo: And so we all thought the program should be about you know 1500 or $2,000 to spend three days with me designing your talk like it’s pretty good deal, but we advertise for like $800, I think, and then we had six weeks to fill it and it sold out in four days.
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Quynh Vo: Like that boom gone so then we scheduled, the second one, by the way, I just delivered the program and it finished on Friday.
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Quynh Vo: And the feedback has been mind blowing because we figured out how to deliver really solid content online luckily we’ve been doing it for years.
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Quynh Vo: So anyway, the first one talk workshop was a complete success, and then we put a second one in the calendar and it comes up, I think it starts on this Friday coming like a little little less than a week from now.
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Quynh Vo: And we left the pricing, where we left it, we will not do that, next year, next year we will put it to its proper pricing, but for coven we decided to keep it where it is.
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Quynh Vo: And there’s still about I don’t know I think there’s still about 20 or 30 places left for the second one that starts in about a week.
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Quynh Vo: So any of you guys want to come and spend three days with me, let me tell you what you’re going to get.
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Quynh Vo: first thing is you’re going to learn my formula for how I put talks together, so you will never need to use notes again, you will you will like you’ll be able to deliver your talk with.
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Quynh Vo: Real serious engagement, because then the second part we’re going to talk about is content or sorry context, like there’s first the content, but then there’s going to be the delivery.
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Quynh Vo: we’re going to talk about how you design the talk so by the end of the program by the end of three days.
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Quynh Vo: You have a talk that you’ve designed and you’re ready to go, you could go delivered on stage, you can deliver it on camera you’re ready to go you’ve got a mind map all done with me having helped you get there, then.
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Quynh Vo: we’re also going to talk about how to deliver like how you tell the stories and how you deliver that talk to make it as compelling as possible, so you’ll have a great talk you’ll know how to deliver it but here’s the real bonus you’re going to get you’ll know how to do it in the future.
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Quynh Vo: you’ll know how to put a talk together if somebody calls you and says oh my God, I need you to come and do a talk this weekend pitch you like.
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Quynh Vo: And so that program is called the one talk workshop and Quynh idea of a I think.
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Quynh Vo: I just put in the the link for you, for everyone here’s, by the way, guys I paid 5000 to attend eric’s event live in person was worth every penny and, if I have to do it again, I would, because it was worth every penny, because once you learn the skill.
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The sky’s the limit, you can create talks like anytime and you know what i’m not perfect, as a top as a speaker, but you know what it works, because I can tell the stories and I have my own way of doing it and i’m not afraid.
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On on on being on stage anywhere, just because I know the formula, so I think that one skill can help you tremendously in your business.
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One thing I want to share, though, is this it’s as a speaker there’s different levels and i’m sure i’m sure Eric 10 years ago the non Eric.
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Quynh Vo: The Non Eric Eric was probably a lot less competent than he is right now, so when did you start learning how to become a public speaker.
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Quynh Vo: Immediately always immediately constantly and always and Quynh i’ll tell you.
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Quynh Vo: I people often ask me, you know Eric you don’t really need to be doing this like When will you stop when you know when when you kind of retire from it, or something like that i’ll tell you the answer.
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Quynh Vo: If ever I do 10 talks in a row, and I can’t think how to improve any of them, then i’m done.
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Quynh Vo: But I like as it stands right now it’s still it’s still a journey and adventure, for me, I I have in in.
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Quynh Vo: In in 10,000 hours on stage in 20 countries around the world i’ve only ever three or four times walked off the stage and thought.
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Quynh Vo: nailed it no it like only three or four times.
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Quynh Vo: And i’ll tell you what i’ll come off the stage and i’ll have a huge list of things I could have done this better I could have done that better I could have done this better could have done that better.
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Quynh Vo: Meanwhile, I get the highest rating maybe from the audience the producers really happy my team is blown away the fans are crazy for it but i’ve still got my list.
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Quynh Vo: And, and I want you to know that that is that constant improving is absolutely key you go to toastmasters you get the feedback you improve next time you go to toastmasters to get the feedback you improve next time.
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Quynh Vo: So eric’s chorus is actually for public speakers it’s not for it’s that good public speakers current public speakers if you’re doing public speaking take eric’s course because it’s that good it’s actually for you.
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Quynh Vo: Anyhow let’s open up for Q amp a because you are so amazing I would love for our audience actually in our audience right now we have a lot of speakers, a lot of coaches.
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Quynh Vo: A lot of legal experts who are actually teaching and training their their own expertise so it’s an amazing thing that.
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Quynh Vo: That you’re here so that we can actually ask you questions there’s anyone wants to ask Eric questions, please raise your hand and then i’ll call on you, and then you can just unmute yourself, let me, let me allow participants to unmute.
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natalie can you unmute yourself.
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Thank you, Colin Eric how amazing you are and i’m sure you hear this constantly and every time you hear it, it is the absolute truth.
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So here’s here’s my question um.
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Is there any particular way that technical content like I do law business law, is there any particular way that.
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That delivering that type of content can be more engaging and more interesting for the attendees that are listening to it yeah you know um one of the ways to look at like i’ll use accounting let’s take something even not even.
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Even more boring than the law let’s say.
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Quynh Vo: Okay, if I am the CFO of the company, I can come out and in and address the shareholders, good evening, ladies and gentlemen, shareholders.
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Quynh Vo: you’ll record you’ll recall that at the last quarterly meeting we agreed targets of 16% growth on the quarter.
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Quynh Vo: And I got the envelope this morning from the accounting team and it looks like we’ve actually achieved 18% growth on the corner, well done, everybody.
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Quynh Vo: that’s your normal yeah right that’s your normal deal, but if I came out and I go like this, I go, ladies and gentlemen.
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Quynh Vo: i’m here to give you guys, the numbers for the quarter, and I want to, I want to remind you guys, all I want to remind you, we were all here last month right last quarter.
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Quynh Vo: And we were going through the projections, and we all voted, we agreed, it was going to be 16% growth that was the projection.
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Quynh Vo: And I gotta tell you I thought, maybe it was a bit aggressive I did I thought, maybe it’s a bit aggressive, so this morning, I can tell you, when the envelope arrived from the accounting department I pause before I opened it.
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Quynh Vo: And I just thought to myself, I wonder how it really went we had thought 16% I thought that was a bit aggressive let’s open up open up the envelope.
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Quynh Vo: And I read the number and I hadn’t read it again and I had to read it one more time because, ladies and gentlemen, we achieved 18% growth on the quarter.
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Quynh Vo: seems like energy, energy and make it interesting, even though the content is boring.
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Quynh Vo: story, he told you to turn into a story yeah yeah and that’s that that’s exactly it so it’s the same thing with with like i’ll tell you a fun little legal story yeah I.
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Quynh Vo: So I used to live in England and I don’t I am I don’t like traffic cameras.
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Quynh Vo: I don’t mind red light cameras and I don’t mind schools own cameras, but I don’t like speed cameras that are sitting at the bottom of a long straight hill.
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Quynh Vo: You know it’s I just first of all, I believe, in countries like America and Canada and, to some degree, Britain, it violates our right to not be observed, without without without cause.
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Quynh Vo: You know it’s like I just I don’t agree with it at all anyway so i’m driving home one day from a company function and we’re driving in convoy me and two other cars in the company.
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Quynh Vo: And we’re driving along and flash flash I get the flashing my rearview mirror and in about two weeks later, I get a letter in the mail, it says that you’ve got you know you’ve got this speeding ticket.
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Quynh Vo: crazy thing is the other two cars in the convoy didn’t get speeding tickets at that so like it’s like I don’t know what the difference was, but you know so anyway, I am.
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Quynh Vo: I The trouble is I had I didn’t ever British driver’s license yet I the Canadian driver’s license, which meant that I couldn’t just pay the fine.
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Quynh Vo: Like if I had a British license I can just put it on their pay to find be done with it, but because I had a cane the license I actually had to go to court and I thought well if i’m going to go to court, I may as well, have fun with this.
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Quynh Vo: Right, I may as well experiment and have some fun with this, so I get to the courtroom and the prosecutor, he comes up to me, he goes hi are you Eric media America means and he’s like.
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Quynh Vo: He goes So how do you plan to plea and i’m like wow i’m just representing myself I, I guess, probably I and watch what I did I said, probably I should plead guilty.
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You know.
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Probably I should plead guilty guilty, but I really don’t think that it was reasonable and, by the way, I just step back a few weeks, one of my policies, when I would get it, because i’d had a few of these.
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Is when I get a radar picture ticket I I I just I follow a very careful plan of civil disobedience I write back and go I needed serial number of the camera I need the calibration reported a camera I need the training certificate of the camera operator I just.
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I, at the end of it they’re like don’t give that guy a ticket it’s just too much work right.
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So funny thing is this time around, I asked for a copy of the photograph like you have every right for a copy of the photograph so they sent me it but weirdly whatever clerk was in the room at that time.
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took out the wrong photograph and gave me a photograph of my old car from a speeding ticket from four years before or something like.
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It was the wrong picture, now that doesn’t mean they don’t have the evidence, it just means they mailed me the wrong evidence, this is not enough to get me off.
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You know it’s like they clearly have the right evidence, they just mailed me the wrong one, but he goes, how do you plan to plead and I go.
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I don’t really know what to tell you I said I could plead guilty, but there’s an evidence problem here, you know they sent me the wrong photograph plus I was driving in a convoy that night and.
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Only one of us got a ticket and i’m just just telling you, I think the whole thing doesn’t seem to feel right and he goes hold on a minute i’ll be right back.
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Quynh Vo: And then, it comes back.
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He comes back and he says.
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me and he says, I am so sorry why he goes well, I I called the Crown prosecution office and I asked him if I could just dismiss your case because there’s just no point in trying to prosecute you.
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Quynh Vo: And, but the problem is i’m a contract lawyer and they pay my fee whether I do your case or not, so they said since they’re paying me anyway, I have to do the case and i’m really sorry.
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Quynh Vo: hold on a minute the prosecuting attorney is apologizing to me for prosecuting me how do you think this is going so far right.
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Quynh Vo: Like you know it’s not bad, so now I go into the room and the guy in front of me the guy who’s cases being heard right before me is like drunk driver he’s a drunk driver.
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Quynh Vo: And and and they hate him they don’t like them, they don’t like his evidence and they throw the book at him.
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Quynh Vo: They throw them in jail for six months they take away his license for three years, like, I mean they I was like oh my God, I have to go on after that.
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Quynh Vo: Like I am scared man I don’t want to be in the courtroom at all.
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Quynh Vo: So, then, I make my way into the Defense you know i’m in the little like criminal bucket docket thing and i’m standing there and it’s a British court right so it’s all pomp and circumstance and there’s three magistrates it’s not one judge.
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Quynh Vo: So, so they asked me the prosecutor comes up and he goes well, your honors we’ve got an interesting case here, Mr ED meads was driving in a convoy.
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Quynh Vo: With all of his company and strangely his car was the only one to get hit with the camera, and then we seem to have an evidence problem a we’ve got the wrong picture of the wrong car here and so that’s our case.
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Quynh Vo: And i’m like i’m looking at this guy going.
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Quynh Vo: holy crap so, then the measure it’s turned to me, and they go well, do you have anything to say in your Defense and i’m like right now I probably shouldn’t say anything I think he’s already said it all.
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Quynh Vo: But what the hell i’m here to have some fun, so I go well, I I said, I have to agree like.
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Quynh Vo: guys I don’t know what to say I don’t know how things work in a courtroom but.
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Quynh Vo: All I can tell you is we left work we left the party we’re driving along in a convoy we’re all spaced out and only one of us gets a ticket just doesn’t seem to make a lot of sense to me.
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Quynh Vo: Plus and look guys, I know you have to have speed cameras in school zones, but what’s this camera doing at the bottom of a long straight hill anyway, they bust out laughing we bust out laughing go I just like telling stories.
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Quynh Vo: And then i’ve done enough and I spoke for like three minutes and and maybe I made them laugh, three, four or five times.
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Quynh Vo: And then they get up and they leave the room and it’s so funny the way they leave the room, because the way they leave the room it’s like.
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Quynh Vo: They they they get up one walks out the other one walks out the third one walks out now I watched them do this for the drunk driver, they all three walk out and they waited out there for like 20 minutes talking.
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Quynh Vo: And then they came back in with the sentence right, but the one walks out the second one walks out the third one walks out the first one walks right back in like it was like.
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Quynh Vo: up like that, like there was just ceremony right and they come back down and they’re like i’m we find not guilty through lack of evidence clunk clunk.
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Quynh Vo: And you’re out and and you know guys like it was just I gotta tell you I think it had everything to do with just being reasonable and telling funny stories hmm Thank you fun stories one story awesome as any other questions i’ll have time for one more question, yes, go ahead.
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Quynh Vo: Yes, I wanted to find out if your training will help someone who is studying to be a pastor Caroline, can you please cuz you put you you turn off your video you were on before and now you’re off Oh, there you go.
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yeah I wanted to find out if your training helped anyone who wants to become a pastor.
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Quynh Vo: You know, sometimes pastors are among the best speakers in the world and that’s because they come from a history of storytelling I mean history is his story.
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Quynh Vo: So, if you think about like, if you think about you know, in a very real sense any religion is really just a form of history, I mean it’s it’s.
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it’s it’s I don’t know how to put it, but it’s like it’s telling stories, and so the one thing that I would say to somebody becoming a pastor is that they.
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They really get good at sharing real life stories and not just the parables and things that are in the various religious texts, you might be familiar with Reverend Michael beckwith.
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Quynh Vo: You know so i’m a big fan he’s a friend of mine, and I think he’s an outstanding guy and some years ago we were both speaking at this event and I had to go on stage after him which I gotta tell ya you know.
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Quynh Vo: he’s pretty dynamic on the stage right and so it’s quite a thing.
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Quynh Vo: And so, he goes up on stage and he does this incredible activation is so good at it and he does this great activation but it’s not storytelling it’s like it’s like.
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Quynh Vo: A major preaching right it’s like he’s he’s he’s like.
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Quynh Vo: And that’s where I want to tell you about the full potential, if your universal existence, when you.
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Quynh Vo: Come to get to the understanding that your decisions are something that are following your deeper intuition allows you to be connected with your higher purpose, then your destiny will unfold.
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Quynh Vo: And then roll out in front of you with doing it’s supposed to be magically and perfectly in every single iteration of your being where your cells are aligned with the universal.
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i’m surprised, you could even do that Eric that was pretty good holy cannoli right.
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And you’ll do that for like an hour right, but then what was really funny is he did something different.
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And he came up to me, afterwards, and you know he knows that i’m a lot of our we have a lot of mutual friends and he knows that.
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I do a lot of like sort of you know speaker coaching and that kind of stuff not that he needs any kind of speaker coaching but weirdly and, by the way, is it weird because he’s outstanding and outstanding people are always looking to improve.
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Quynh Vo: And he asked me my opinion and I was so honored like are so honored he’s like what, what do you think I could have done better like how could it be even better, and I said, do you really want to know, can I really tell you my really loud like I gotta have permission to coach.
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Quynh Vo: And he goes yes please, and I said, your activations are so good they’re so inspirational and people will come back to them again and again and again and again, but they won’t remember much about them.
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Quynh Vo: They won’t I mean, how do you remember, which universal potential reality, I was talking about when your decisions were making your destiny and which site, you know.
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Quynh Vo: Like it’s it’s it’s not it’s not designed to put information it’s time to bring your blood up right.
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Quynh Vo: And I said, but this time, you did something very different than i’ve ever seen you before, and it was so powerful it was what was it and I said, can I show you he’s like yeah and I go all right.
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Quynh Vo: So you’re doing the whole activation you’re talking about the full potential of unleashing your faith in the universe, and knowing that you can.
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Quynh Vo: adjust yourself to every single circumstance understanding that life is constantly happening for you and not to you, and that is when your destiny will fall.
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Quynh Vo: And then you went like this and you went in fact I was at the grocery store, the other day.
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Quynh Vo: And all of a sudden this happened, and that happened and what he did, is he was in the activation.
482
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Quynh Vo: And then he dropped into the story, and he told a real life story about the real life grocery store that took all the activation and put it into practical terms, and by putting a story guess what next time you’re in the grocery store you’re going to remember his story.
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Quynh Vo: So as a pastor I think that’s one of the most important things you can do sure teach the parables read the scriptures.
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Quynh Vo: All that stuff is there, great you do that, but then what you want to do, in my opinion, is you want to tell stories about how you use it in your life or how you use it your life like i’ll give you a really good example.
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Today we’re going to be studying the Book of job.
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Quynh Vo: Okay, so now we go into the Book of job like, let me tell you like it for those you guys don’t know the Book of job it’s not a happy story.
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Quynh Vo: Case it’s not a happy story, basically, if you want to understand the book who Joe basically God and Satan decide to have a contest to see who can screw up this guy’s life, the most i’m kidding.
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Quynh Vo: i’m kidding but i’m not kidding I mean honestly did that that was going this guy only has faith in you, because his life is good now watch this i’ll kill his wife still has faith in me.
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Quynh Vo: That i’ll make him kill his own son still has faith in me that i’ll take everything away from him and he still it God and Satan.
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Quynh Vo: But don’t don’t let those to play nobody wins than those who are playing right, but so you can share the whole book of job but look what I just did.
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Quynh Vo: I made, I made it into like fun, so we can go and have the conversation I can see, but listen, why did job continue to have faith.
492
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Quynh Vo: Because he accepted that everything that was happening his life was perfect that was meant to be happening, even if it was uncomfortable.
493
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Quynh Vo: And here’s what I want to say to you, the next time you get fired or lose your business or you get you know your partner wants to leave you or and that kind of stuff.
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Quynh Vo: What you want to do is stop one second and ask yourself Do I really want my life to be easier or do I just want to be stronger.
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Quynh Vo: And that’s how we do it if I was a pastor sure start with the actual teachings then go into real life story and then Bam I hope that helps.
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Quynh Vo: that’s amazing Thank you so much Eric and you know what i’m we are out of time, but I actually want you to address one thing because here’s the thing.
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Quynh Vo: There is a I am actually very transparent with everyone I tell people I bring people the the the amazing people that I bring here are all heart centered.
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Quynh Vo: At the in the chat box, there is one person who wants to take your course speaking, but she’s concerned because she was in one in 2018 and it was a disappointment.
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Quynh Vo: I was just reading a private note she sent to me and I, and I While talking to you guys I opened up the whole ticket system to find out what was going on there.
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Quynh Vo: And I just and, by the way, as a speaker, you need to be prepared that people will say things like that from time to time.
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Quynh Vo: You guys if any of you ever want to go check wild fit out, you can go to our Facebook page or you can go to any review page anywhere and we don’t.
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Quynh Vo: like this very often and we usually handle them really well and in this case sheila it says we didn’t and i’m going to have to look into why we didn’t or what happened it’s incredibly rare for us.
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Quynh Vo: If you go and look at the review pages remember reviews on Facebook, are completely written non anonymously by real people, and you can see what people are saying same thing with speaker nation.
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Quynh Vo: I don’t really understand I don’t really understand what happened in this case I all I can do is tell you i’ve opened the ticket up, I can.
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Quynh Vo: On my screen over here, while I was talking to you guys to try to figure out what happened for sheila because I want to I ultimately want to know I.
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Quynh Vo: want to be really clear we we get really phenomenal reviews and really phenomenal feedback from our clients, but we don’t rest when it doesn’t happen, and you know we always are looking for.
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Quynh Vo: we’re always looking for the feedback that helps us to make things better, and we wouldn’t be where we are, if we hadn’t done that bear in mind.
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Quynh Vo: Barely marketed well as a company we’ve not marketed welfare at all, only our partners have and we’ve grown exponentially over the last six years because we actually get results.
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Quynh Vo: So in this particular case, I can’t speak to why it was all I can tell you is, if you go to, for example, if you go to the speaker nation Facebook page.
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Quynh Vo: There are a bunch of reviews that people just wrote because they went through the one talk workshop, and I think that that’s really where you need to go and I just want to say this.
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Quynh Vo: I have nothing.
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Quynh Vo: But i’ve been through his speaking it’s the best so you are getting this deal is amazing Thank you so much for keeping this price.
513
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Quynh Vo: Because I paid 5000 folks and you’re going to get it like in three days is when is it it’s coming up to the end of the month.
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Quynh Vo: And they get starts on I you know I should have wait a minute, I can tell you right now, because you posted the link a second, so I can click.
515
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Quynh Vo: On you know what you love here’s the thing if you don’t like it.
516
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Quynh Vo: I will pay the rest of I mean how.
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Quynh Vo: What does you guarantee Eric because I don’t know what’s what’s your policy is, but I actually don’t know what the guarantee, on the one talking shop is I I imagine it’s our normal satisfaction guarantee, I imagine, and.
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Quynh Vo: By the way, sheila did you get a refund i’m curious I don’t know where you are but i’m curious if you got one.
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sheila sheila it’s okay she’s written to me privately going oops I meant to send us all to privately i’m not trying to cause you a difficulty and sheila i’m okay don’t worry it’s all okay i’m i’m an open book I don’t have an issue with it.
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But let’s see here.
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Quynh Vo: So, but what I would say is with the one talk workshop with all of our programs, we have money back guarantees because because we deliver, and you will not be disappointed in fact you’re gonna love it probably one of World War with Eric that’s how.
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Quynh Vo: it’s may 29 through may 31 and it’s quite intensive fun full days and we limit the class size that we only allow 100 people in the class so we’re very because that way I can work with everybody on their stories and so yeah I hope you guys will join us for.
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Quynh Vo: us to get into a class have a top.
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Quynh Vo: How much is it worth to you have one talk, you know you can deliver the minute somebody wants you on a webinar.
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Quynh Vo: minute somebody wants you to go on stage somewhere boom you’re ready you’ve got a talk, you can deliver that’s an incredibly valuable thing plus On top of that, you.
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Quynh Vo: know the underpinning of how I designed talks and why they work so well so you’ll have both a talk and skills and that’s what I want you to.
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Quynh Vo: The 3ds and it’s phenomenal it’s phenomenal Thank you so much, everybody on this call and for being so generous with your time.
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Quynh Vo: No worries at all thanks, very much for having me thanks for doing the good work you’re doing and for all of you that were here today.
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Quynh Vo: It was a great privilege to be able to share with you guys, I really enjoy what I do and i’m glad that there are people out there that are seeking learning growing all the time, so have an outstanding week ahead one last one last thought I have for you guys is.
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Quynh Vo: The lockdown is not summer camp it’s boot camp.
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Quynh Vo: Use the lockdown to prepare for what’s coming next because it’s a new world out there, and this is a great time to do exactly what you’re doing right now learning and growing learning and growing.
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Quynh Vo: We are not here for life to be easier, we are here for us to be stronger and a lockdowns a great time to get stronger have a great week guys Quynh thanks so much for having me.