Your host Quynh Vo and her guest Lucas Mattiello on how to speak with confidence. Lucas reveals the secrets to becoming more confident with public speaking.
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Thank you so much Quynh yeah I know it is it’s you know that that’s the big piece here is that as entrepreneurs.
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I mean if you’re not putting your message out there it’s not you’re not making the impact that you’re here to be put on this planet for.
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And I believe everyone has a dream, everyone knows, deep down inside what they truly want.
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But oftentimes The fear is can hold us back and so it’s it’s really navigating those fears and going Okay, how can I put myself out there and.
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As you mentioned, to about the fear of yourself other even being nervous about it when we can connect with being able to have that, as our deeper purpose.
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and focusing on doing it for other people instead of ourselves that’s where often you’re going to get that courage to put ourselves out there.
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So if you want me to jump into the PowerPoint I can do that right now get it all right let’s go every every ready, I want to give people the opportunity to ask you questions yeah we have not enough time for Q amp a but yeah well.
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Put the questions in the chat box and I will answer them and if, if you have questions, right now, let me know if not i’ll take a look at them at the end of this.
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And it’s it’s about confident video so anything regarding you know confidence and putting yourself on video or the fear of doing so i’m happy to answer anything you got.
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And you want to ask your questions folks because he’s really good he had he gave me very I mean really specific mindset breakthroughs about speaking.
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So I hope that you will get that here as well, totally look, I mean well people get what they want, out of it and that’s the beauty of this but also my whole philosophy on this is.
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This is just you versus yourself and so that’s the biggest piece around it it’s taking full responsibility and go hey there’s nobody coming up to us going like hey you better not put your message out there on video because.
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it’s not what the situation is but it’s us getting in our way and so when we can get past it that’s where we’re able to really fill ourselves up for it.
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So i’m going to jump right into it, I see some stuff in the chat box let’s take a look at um any questions, but I do have fears.
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Well, hopefully that’s I appreciate the honesty with that and we will see if we can answer some of those questions to navigate those fears and, if not do hit me up for the questions i’ll be happy to answer okay.
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So let’s start the show look, you are in the right place start off, you know it’s here it’s late at night you’re probably thinking oh.
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Should I just bail get out of here go watch some TV or dinner, whatever it is well i’ll show you this question and you’ll know you make that decision then.
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So if you’re in the right place if you’ve never put yourself out there on video and you’re deathly afraid you’re in the right place definitely want to stick around.
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Or perhaps that you put out some videos but it’s it’s really uncomfortable it just takes way too much time you’re drained you’re exhausted you think oh my God I don’t even want to deal with that anymore.
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If that’s you you’re the right place or perhaps that you, you know you regularly put out videos but you want to be more effective.
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or allow the real you to shine through That is something that costly comes up, so I have a course called confident video this is commonly coming up with that people.
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Say oh yeah I do video little time I go hang on what is the real you shining through like no it’s not actually one of my clients.
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I just we just did our training, one thing that came up was she was saying that I just entered this kind of like girly voice and it’s.
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got haha because you’re afraid and her fear is of coming across as being pushy or afraid, is coming across as too authoritative just afraid of come across i’ll tell you what to do.
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But she has a really amazing financial product but she’s not putting it out there.
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And so there’s that disconnect with it the irony of it is she’s one of the most know kind hearted individuals i’m like I challenge, I challenge you to come across as pushy and arrogant.
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I challenge you to do it as she’s like oh that’s great no that’s my fear i’m like you won’t you will not be able to do that and that’s the thing on that journey of giving yourself that permission to it.
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You will unlock a whole new level of competence, so if you’re in any one of these categories are definitely afraid you know you do it, but it’s uncomfortable or you do it all the time, and you want to.
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really allow the real you to shine through you are in the right place stick around and catch dinner in 55 minutes.
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And I do have bonuses for you to cover up to, so what we’re going to cover in this training is why now is the best time to be competent video.
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We are actually in a gold rush opportunity, a lot of people are seeing it as that, but it is it’s an absolute gold rush, it is the best time ever, and i’ll explain to you why this is just marketing bs this is real it’s a real answer for this.
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how you can text your video text your business with video you’re going to learn that.
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The top three myths that are holding entrepreneurs back from being on video.
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And the three steps to start your confidence on video journey So these are gonna be tangible tips that you can utilize that will help you give yourself permission to share your message in a bigger way so we’ll cover that now.
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start off with this new our new reality, and this is why it’s a gold rush our new reality is the world has changed with Kobe.
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And i’m not just hopping on this it’s true we look at it, oh what’s next conference you’re going to go to oh that’s right they’re all canceled so there’s no conferences your networking group that’s gone, speaking from the stage.
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I remember the days we used to do that these are all gone so these situations are all gone so if you’re a business owner, how are you putting yourself out there, well, you only have one way and that’s through video right now.
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And right now it’s only through video, so the world has changed and we’re in a new era we are in the exposure error and exposure era it’s.
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Is bring it up that right now, if you’re not sharing your message online, you are invisible, I want you to really own this.
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If you’re not sharing your message in line, you are invisible, you do not exist, your business does not exist and that’s why it’s essential right now to be on video.
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Because people are not walking down the street to see your your your store anymore.
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you’re not going to networking events you’re not going to conferences you’re not speak onstage.
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All these methods to get your message out there have been taken away from you, and only leaves one, and that is on video and that’s why it’s an absolute gold rush.
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it’s no longer who you know it’s about who knows you that’s the exposure we’ve been moving towards that and its accelerated it’s just brought the future forward, and this is where we are today and think about this.
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I mean you know my network, no, it makes no difference to you, but you know who I am now because i’m here.
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So, think about this in in the exposure era it’s not about the network anymore it’s about who knows you and also from a power stance if you’re selling a product or service.
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Do you want to have a big network behind you, or do you want people to go oh yeah she’s the best that’s the person, you need to go to.
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Your he’s amazing at what he does it’s about who knows you it’s not about who you know anymore, and so, when we we operate from that mindset it’s going to change the way that we show up Okay, so why.
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Why this new route is a gold rush it all is because very simple that this the future has been fast track it’s been brought here and it’s been building up you see this, even with cell phone and data plans.
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Remember when like two gigs was a lot he’s having your phone yet well, I have two gigs.
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And then I was like two gigs that’s nothing your boy who’s 510 1520 unlimited why because video is taking over if it’s on instagram it’s on Facebook video video video video video.
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And so that’s why the futures been fast track we’ve been building up to it it’s just been brought forward.
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You know, and again Cisco they predict that 82% of all Internet traffic will be video right by by 2022.
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it’s not that far off, and right now it’s probably at about 75% last time I checked was about 75% that is a lot that is a lot so right now, if you’re not on video we’re missing out.
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So there’s three types of businesses in this gold rush situation, there are those that are going to go on offense.
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Those that are going to try to wait it out and hope things go back to normal and those that are going to attract and shrink lay people off and go Okay, let me just play Defense.
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Now of these there’s only three options in this current situation, and with it it’s an opportunity, you either going to get ahead going to get ahead of the curve, or you can try to play catch up to the competition, you really don’t have any options.
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Waiting and retracting it’s gonna lead to losses, only the people that are bold and this time they always say that fortune favors the bold.
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This is a time to bold, this is the time you want to double down.
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on putting your message out there and being on video, because only the people that are on offense that are putting themselves out there they’re going to build your brand they’re going to build that awareness build that exposure, so they can make an impact okay.
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Now, the reason that it’s a gold rush is because the number one fear is your secret weapon because number one fear is the fear of public speaking it’s what I specialize in is what most people are afraid of.
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And the second this isn’t about being perfect on video this isn’t about being amazing an inspirational it’s about just putting yourself out there that’s enough to put you ahead of the curve.
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ahead of the competition and it’s going to make your competitors like catch up to you, instead of you playing catch up to them.
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Okay, so that’s the opportunity that we are in, right now, and this is an absolute gold rush I believe it’s going to last about six months to a year.
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Before it just becomes mandatory you have a window right now about six months to a year to get in to get ahead of people and a lot of times, people say to me.
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Well, I had a client she’s like you know Lucas i’m 60 years old.
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i’m 60 years old and i’m not good with technology, and you know people of my generation we weren’t released the phones video is all stuff that’s foreign I said absolutely I got you.
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But how many people that are 60 would have the courage to even get out a phone and do a video.
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you’re going to be an inspiration to everybody you’re going to be definitely be standing out and so it’s not an excuse not to get on video.
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it’s not an excuse, if anything, be a role model to show them what’s possible because if you have all this experience and you’ve been helping people it’s an obligation to put your message out there okay.
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So I got a bonus for you, though, a lot of times people want to do videos but they’re like oh i’m a little bit nervous, I have a pre video checklist okay it’s a previous checklist So you see, right here.
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You go through you can print off the boxes, you can take them.
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When you’re putting yourself on video go through just its first section check in with yourself the second check in with your set.
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You know, make sure that your microphones good the external noise of the days of shooting were at the end of it, you realize that you didn’t turn the microphone on.
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quite frustrating want avoid that we have a checklist go through it got there check in with your content and lasted let yourself be heard.
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This is the free checklist that I have for you all you gotta do is it gives your routine to go through go to level up living.com slash PVC that stands for previous checklist what I can do is i’ll put in the chat right now, just so you have it.
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And Oh, that was not it, that was the zoom link to enter this room okay when would you would it be possible for you to copy that.
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Jesus I just did that okay that that level of living for you Lucas Thank you so much, I I copy and paste and it was the wrong, it was the wrong thing was the zoom link to join this call.
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level up living.com backslash PVC, if you want to take a screenshot gabrielle she’s she’s ahead of me thank you so much, get real.
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Okay now got this amazing introduction from Quynh, this is what I do just a quick intro to myself, I help entrepreneurs entrepreneurs become competent speakers, so the lives of dreams that’s my mission life that’s my purpose, why.
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Entrepreneurs are the change makers were the people that change the world and are going to be able to uplift it and.
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When we are not putting our message out there, everybody loses you lose your clients lose the world loses so that’s my mission life, I want to help you put yourself out there and.
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I do this through intensive live in person workshops, which is in the past, hopefully coming back soon, I look forward to do them again and have a course called confident video and confident video.
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it’s, of course, we take you through step by step process to be confident video and put yourself out there.
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i’m an official speaking coach for tedx Stanley park why it’s of note is one of the biggest tedx events in North America it’s in front of over 2600 people so it’s a big crowd helping people do the biggest talk to the life.
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and helping them navigate the fear is literally being there side by side to help them to get on stage.
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And so, if people you know, sometimes feel like oh i’m just nervous and trust me this is easy.
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If it’s that you’re nervous about putting yourself out do your first video or speaking front of 10 people or 20 people I got you I hope people get in front of thousands, so the same stuff that works for them, I can definitely help you.
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Put yourself out there because we’re all on our own journey, and we all have our own obstacles to face i’m here to really support you and take you through that that spot.
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i’ve been featured in forbes magazine, that was a big honor of doing an article about why the fear of public speaking is your secret weapon, because I believe it is.
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comes that most people are too afraid to ever put themselves out there it’s a second you do you instantly position yourself as an expert and i’ve trained over 700 clients, and this will know.
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In small group workshops getting in the trenches with them seeing their fears seeing what comes up there’s patterns and a develop the system by working with as many clients.
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It makes it easy to see what are the obstacles that they face, and how can we move you forward that you reclaim your voice and i’ll share that quickly.
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This is not about finding your voice a lot of times clients honey, they go Oh, you know I need to help me find my voice.
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i’m not here to help you find your voice you don’t need to find your voice what you do need is to reclaim it because we come into this world fully self expressed.
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I don’t have kids, but I have two young nieces you got kids or, if you have nieces.
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or nephews little kids rowdy there’s no filter there’s no fear about what to say there’s no fear of public speaking they’re just fully self expressed.
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And what happens is people go either it’s school you get shut down you feel humiliated speak in front of a class.
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Maybe it’s apparent you feel not comfortable opening up or they’ve been kind of keeping your quiet don’t speak, you know don’t be too loud, it can be society.
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You know friends telling you don’t don’t be too bright all these things that come up.
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But we come into this world fully self expressed, and then we get shut down our light gets dim so this isn’t about finding your voice this about you taking back what is rightfully yours.
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Okay, what is rightfully yours, and this about reclaiming your voice, and if you are competitive you feel that inside and you’re like you know what that’s right, I want to reclaim my voice for the chat box.
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i’m reclaiming my voice, because that’s what we’re doing here really, this is a declaration for yourself, I am here to reclaim my voice.
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I put in the chat box i’m reclaiming my voice, because that’s it feel how it feels to say that right feel how it feels to say that what goes through your body when you say it, because.
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that’s really what we’re here, for this is no finding your voice is about reclaiming it, and this is not about asking permission from anybody else but this about you, giving yourself permission yourself.
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Okay, this there’s no external opponent there’s no one else out there, this is you versus you and that’s the best part.
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Because if you’re doing it, you can defeat yourself Okay, with the right accountability support I love this so good, though, is i’m recording my voice, it feels good to say that doesn’t it it feels really good.
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Okay, so just my journey, how we got started couldn’t mentioned, I have a lot of anxiety, I had panic attacks anxiety from 14 to 29.
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I didn’t know their panic attacks, it was coming up in high school wrestling I thought it was dying old time I just felt my heart going is what’s going on i’d run out of the room go to the washroom throw water on my face.
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And I thought it was dying and I was like, but it was really ashamed that was the biggest thing.
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I was ashamed, I was ashamed, I thought that something’s wrong with me why couldn’t I be normal, like everybody else, and it brought up a lot of insecurity.
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Because I knew I needed help, but it was too ashamed to ask for it, and so, for 15 years I struggled.
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I struggled in silence and maybe there’s something inside of you that you’ve struggled for a long time you just felt shame you just.
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You didn’t feel like you were good enough to put yourself out there you didn’t feel comfortable to ask for help, I live that way for 15 years and to get through.
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I had to create a lot of Armor and the Armor just to keep people away because it was afraid if they knew what was really going on i’d be rejected, they think that I was good enough, they think i’m crazy.
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And so maybe for you, maybe there’s certain things that you know have armored you up.
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Maybe instead of sharing your message like ooh that seems dangerous I I don’t feel comfortable What if people reject me what if people laugh, but if I embarrassed myself what if I don’t look good.
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there’s Armor that’s holding us back, and I promise you that when you step into that.
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And you start taking that Armor off it’s going to feel vulnerable but that’s where the true liberation comes from okay that’s where the true liberation comes from and that’s my mission in life.
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And so I live this way for 15 years until I was laid off from my job in 2010.
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And at that point, loss of identity, you know purpose status, all of this, I ended up at the at the mental hospital, and this was the front door that I walked into.
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And it was 10 steps to the front door I looked at that door and I just turned 30 years old, and the only thoughts going through my mind were how did I let myself get here.
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How do I let myself get here, what did I do to deserve this and my life is screwed I have no future.
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who’s going to want me what am I going to do after I have no, I have no hope and I sat in that for a while.
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Actually didn’t want to live at that point i’m like what’s the point that this is just feel hopeless.
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And I started walking through that door about five steps that front door something shifted where I realized wow i’m finally going to get the help that I need.
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i’m finally going to figure out what’s actually going on, and it was the turning point we’re actually became excited.
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I became side, I went in I met the the psychologists his name is Dr George and he was wearing he’s wearing jeans and a sweater and I was expecting a clipboard and lab coat and it was really I was, I was.
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Like wow he’s not judging me he was very he was very nice it’s very accommodating and it was at that moment that I realized the value of caring for people.
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When they’re their most vulnerable state how can you help them and I went in I was diagnosed with packs order to enter the stress management recovery program for next year, I worked on.
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Overcoming anxiety, I came out of their house thinking you know what I want to help people, I want to help people by sharing my story because there’s other people that are maybe stuck because of shame stigma and fear.
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And that’s that’s where my mission life changed, so I started a blog called level up living 10 years later.
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we’re rocking it out built in the business i’m an accidental entrepreneur, I just wanted to start off by starting a blog and you know, in the beginning, I was so nervous I didn’t even I didn’t use my real name I use a fake name.
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Was Mike Jones I had thing to him as fake as it could be, because I was afraid of people, knowing that it was me.
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And so, wherever you are if you’re not comfortable putting yourself out there just know there’s no shame in it.
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The fact that you’re here on this call it shows that you have what it takes to put yourself out there in a bigger way okay.
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It shows me that you have what it takes an accidental entrepreneur okay just one see how brave to walk ask yourself well you know when here’s a part.
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You know somebody say brave, but the other piece to it was that her death, I was going to kill myself.
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And, and I got to that low point where what shifted when I thought about the pain that I would give my family if I did commit suicide.
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And that’s what that hurt me more than the fear of walking in.
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And so I needed I knew I needed to make up I love my family and I didn’t want to put them through it, and that was a decision, I had to make and I went in met Dr George he was a godsend for me.
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That really just it was except me and he put me on a program and I didn’t I didn’t have hope.
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I didn’t have hope that I could change but he’s like no problem we’ll put you to the system you got to do a lot of exposure work, you need to make lifestyle changes, you need to make diet changes.
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i’m like hey brother, you tell me what I need to do i’ll do it, you know, there is, I need to get rid of this and you know it’s amazing the hope when I knew he said yeah we’ll get past this it changed my whole life.
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Somebody saying that I could get past it when I thought this was a lifetime sense I was like you tell me what I need to do i’ll do, and that was a shift that happened.
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So I started off by doing videos this was many years ago, you could tell I was insecure I had my dyed black jet black hair, this is my parents basement I have.
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fabrics that I stole from my mom so remind me and I had a $10 light.
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That I bought from home depot This is my phone no microphone so when people say to me hey you need equipment, you need the studio you need to set up i’m like bullshit you don’t need any of that.
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All you just the courage to put yourself out there, and you can see, look it’s got you know almost 180,000 views.
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And kind of spoiled me because that was my first video ever done hasn’t been the same since then, but when you’re when you’re going from that place.
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Look let’s get rid of that you don’t need gear you don’t need all this you just need a phone need a voice, need to be able to speak.
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And you need courage that’s all it takes for you to put yourself out there, the navigation, to the fears all that we can deal with that, but you have what it takes inside of you.
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So we did that, and I want to share this with tedx Stanley park I mentioned this a few times, so I do I work at speakers to get on big stages and I work with people that are definitely afraid to even speak in front of five.
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But what often comes up people see images like this looks like Melissa when my clients we work together for seven months to get ready for the stage, but what they don’t see is this next picture, and this is the picture that I wish more people didn’t see.
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This one this was captured by one of the other coaches and it was it, you know this isn’t.
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People might look at it like oh this looks like a fake instagram picture you didn’t really I didn’t know he was taking a shower I took it and what happened was I was sitting there with Melissa she was freaking out.
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One of the coaches got her heads are you need to don’t forget this, and she just overwhelmed.
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And she just turned to me she’s like look I just need you to hold my hand, could we just we stood in silence, we were kind of seven months to get here.
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Holding hands, she walked on stage a minute later delivering amazing talk OK, change your life has made a major impact in the world.
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But this is the message that I want people to see because the message that the picture on stage people look at that go all you know she’s special she’s amazing she’s doing this on stage she’s doing this thing I could never do that.
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Trust me every one of my clients when I work with them, I go, we could get you to we just work together for seven months to uncover the fears.
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And I wish people saw the freak outs in the green room The self doubt at a call with Melissa two weeks before saying oh my God i’m freaking out Lucas.
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i’m on script number 70 I don’t think i’m good enough, I think this is going to be horrible i’m about to make a huge mistake, you talked her through it, she got up and did a great job.
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So, if you think you can’t go there let’s get that out of the head all that happened was she committed to falling through and we work together.
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that’s all it is anybody can get on the stages you don’t have to be a superhero and there’s no special you know jeans or anything that needs to get out there it’s simply this commitment and and really courage to go for it.
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So that was Melissa and that’s actually one of my other clients, I want to share it the power of video this is Jacqueline we work together as well, and if you see in the bottom left corner here.
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To go over 4.3 million views okay this isn’t a professional speaker she’s a stay at home mom but not stay at home, she she takes care of her chest two children and she works part time in marketing.
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Not a professional speaker, but what she did have was a purpose, she started by getting your kids to do random acts of kindness every day.
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They did it for a year, she did it to start them just feel more confident about themselves to get back be more empathetic more caring of others.
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And it picked up by her school than the schools like oh that’s amazing it started going to other schools, and now it got taken up by you know countries all over the world in Japan they’re doing it it’s called 365 give.
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And again, this is not a professional speaker the someone who committed to it had a bigger purpose and put herself out there, so it’s possible for you to do this okay.
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Now, what is this is very funny this part, how do you text your business was video people go oh my gosh tedx video that’s a bold claim Lucas, how can you make that this.
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it’s true and it’s going to be a little bit cheeky it’s a little cheeky, but this is the one question I get asked it’s really it’s the simplest question and the only question you want to tax your business.
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How many people this week of senior offer that’s it, how many people this week i’ve seen your offer that that’s the one question you gotta ask yourself.
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You want to 10 X your business get yourself in front of 10 times, where people to see your offer.
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Because either people are doing videos and it just adding content they’re not making offers or.
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they’re just not doing enough of it, you have to put yourself out there and again it’s a very simple metric.
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But it’s the only metric because until somebody sees your offer they can’t say yes, if they don’t say yes you’re not going to build your business and you’re not going to help them.
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So it’s a simple question asked so how many people have seen my offer this week, if it’s zero or it’s not many people well there’s a lot of room for improvement.
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But I do this to you again it’s slightly cheeky, but it also reinforces a very real point.
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which the one question you want to build your business, you want to exit get in front of you get your offer in front of 10 times more people, how do you do that video.
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Do videos put yourself out there scale your message okay that’s the one the one question so had 10 times, where people to see your offer by putting yourself video that’s the way to 10 X your business okay.
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Very simple metric but it’s the only one that matters.
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Now we’re going to jump into this three steps to start your confidence on video journey, so that you when I want you to win in this gold rush again i’m gonna keep referring to as a gold rush because it absolutely is.
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there’s never been a time in history, this is an unprecedented time that the entire world has shut down and all of events have shut down.
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Networking stuff shut down people can’t go to church they can’t go anywhere like this has never happened in the world.
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And there’s only one way to get your message out there and that’s video.
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And, most people are too afraid to ever do it, this is a, it is an absolute gold rush and i’m reinforcing this but i’m going to share with you three steps to get started with it.
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Right it’s, how do you get clear on your message, what do you need to say and how do you have the confidence to put it out there.
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So step one is what the sound video Now this is, this is the first step, people often have fear about it, you know what do I say I don’t put myself out there, look.
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This is the top myths and fears there’s a few comments that come up, they all what I say, well, what if what I say isn’t like by the viewers that’s one top top myth.
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I wonder videos But what if it’s not like okay well i’ll answer all these I don’t have hours to think of video ideas, this is another one that comes up I don’t have hours, I think it’s gonna take too long okay.
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I don’t want to just add more noise, this is a very noisy world I don’t want to just add more noise will answer all these questions okay.
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will answer all these questions in this in this point here okay so first thing is you don’t want to add noise you want your message to be like it’s about adding value.
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The only way they’re not going to like it or that you’re not going to add you’re just gonna be adding more noise if it’s not specific so get very specific.
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first thing is just get clear who is your ideal client right who’s your ideal client so when you have that what’s your occupation, you know where do they live.
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What age problems they have your solution you’ll be able to give them value if you say hey is this who you are, and this is what you’re struggling with this is a tip to help you.
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When you’re adding value and it’s targeted they’re going to like what you say.
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they’re going to appreciate it it’s definitely not gonna be noise, you can be putting yourself out there, but it’s also going to help you overcome that always can take hours to come up i’ll be sharing with you in a second.
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how you can come up with a year’s worth of content in literally.
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like an hour i’ll take you like an hour to do it, you can easily come up you’ll have too many content ideas that’s that’s actually the child is going to come up it’s not gonna be not enough you’re gonna have too many ideas.
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And that’s a good problem to have so that’s, the first thing just get clear what to say get clear on on your client, the second one is where are they.
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So this comes up to add a client, the other day, asked me, she said, oh Should I be doing tick tock like I don’t know are your clients on tick tock know.
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Why would you do it, then my daughter is on tick tock here’s really popular like I nobody if your clients aren’t typically don’t do it, you got to figure out what the platform So where are they.
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People they get overwhelmed because I gotta do this I gotta do Facebook, I do not know you don’t just take your platform focused on doing one, and then we can build the other ones.
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We can build on the old ones later, but what is the platforms are on Facebook, or the on instagram is that YouTube.
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Is this videos for your website that you want to send your email list is it you want to do online events wherever your platform is just get clear with it so get clear with who’s your ideal client, where are they hanging out, it makes it simple to get your message out there.
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The second piece is video is the King of content, so, for example, you can repurpose the out if you don’t have video you can repurpose it.
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But video is the King of all content, because you can take your video put the video up, you can take out the audio make that a podcast.
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You can take out the text now you got a blog post, you can take snippets of it and make them teaser clips for people to watch the full video see if they really want to see it or not.
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You can take the image add an image pull from it, all of this, as possible when you have that one key asset which is video if you don’t have video.
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You can’t pull all the elements out so it’s actually the easiest way for you to build a content to get your message out there.
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To again get your offer out in front of more of your ideal clients, so that you can text your business, it makes it that simple, but this is the first piece.
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You really want to get clear with with who is your clients and where we move for this, so we have our ideal client.
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Next is you have your platform okay i’m going to do it on this or this whatever it is cool The next thing is what am I going to say we’ll cover we’ve got you covered with topics.
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Topics Okay, what are your top three videos first thing list out, what are the problems that your clients have not, this might be obvious, but each one of your clients problems that’s a potential video.
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Each every problem your client has that’s that’s a potential video, are you struggling with this, this is a solution and.
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oftentimes what people get stuck with is they want to focus them and they want help people go from a tizzy cover all the problems, no, no.
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shift your mindset around it, that you’re just solving each video it’s A to B it’s A, B and C to D you’re just making these small little adjustments you go you’re just getting that that quick little win.
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Because even for video link you want it to be most videos in general, two to four minutes that seems to be the time span.
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Keep around two to four minutes just solve one small problem, because you can set up there’s a million problems that are going to come up, but just give them that small win.
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Because people get they get overwhelmed are going to solve all you know you don’t just start with the small wins, because the bigger one for us to put yourself on video.
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It can build up to the longer when our talks all that that’s down the line so first just get clear what are the problems your clients have.
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To what are the frequently asked questions your clients ask you, these are all potential video topics so for myself often people ask me it’s like well.
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i’ve done a lot of online courses and they just collect dust on my hard drive and I actually never use it, I don’t want to waste my time again so hey great I got that that comes up a lot but.
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This is the course that I do it’s live so it’s like Why is live you’re more committed you’re going to be there you’re going to engage.
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We also have support calls on Thursday, so any questions you have we got you.
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Where people fall off I find if it’s pre recorded and you don’t engage with it and there’s no Community behind it just going to check out.
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Okay, sometimes you’ll commit to it, but for the most part the the completion rate is a very, very low, but if it’s live and you’re engaged you’re accountable you’re going to be there.
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So you can address each one of your Frequently Asked Questions Those are all video topics, the next one, this is often overlooked this is should ask questions.
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What are the questions your clients should ask you that they don’t it, what are the questions your clients should ask you that they don’t.
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So when I was running speak with confidence, a big fear people have is they say hey i’ve done speaker trainings and I didn’t really get a lot out of it.
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I say no problem, why they should ask the question you should ask is why am I going to get results from your training when I didn’t in my past training.
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Because a lot of times the fear from people taking action is they go they have it in their head that last time they made a bad decision or they didn’t take action on it’s like oh I don’t want to repeat that mistake again.
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This is a way to to overcome it, so the should ask if that was my last question i’d flip it around and say look.
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This isn’t a classroom setting this isn’t where you’re just gonna be sitting there taking notes, for you know, two, three days, if that was the case you could actually walk out and get no value from it.
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I mean you can take a binder full of notes, but a binder full notes isn’t what’s needed for you to actually become confident video.
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or content on stage in my training it’s a small group training 30 minutes and we go okay get on get on camera and introduce yourself.
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boom you got to do it, you got to face your fears in there and then we take the videos and we have to watch it as a group.
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All your fears and insecurities you’ve been brought to the surface, but we do it in a group and that’s what allows you to break through the fears okay so.
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that’s a should ask question people ask why would I get success for this program versus another one.
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So this could be a list of questions of video topics for you to client success stories.
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What are the successes clients had what are the setbacks your clients face and how do they overcome it or what did they do or not do the a lot that lead to failure.
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You know I had a client and one of my longer term programs that he invested in the program and showed up to zero trainings.
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We ran for live events showed up to zero of them and i’m like well I can’t I mean I can’t help you with that he was always too busy right we know too busy too busy means i’m afraid to face the thing I need to face and that’s okay.
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But when I say that people might be thinking oh my God he’s saying that not everybody gets results, we know not everybody gets results, but if you don’t show up I can’t guarantee you’re gonna get a result.
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And, but it also shows a lot more authenticity and people trust you more when you share that they’re not all successes.
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This you also attract an ideal client I say look, if you want to get results, you need to show up if you don’t show up all the training all the support can help you you got to be there.
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And so, this is an example of a client story that you know these are three different types of clients stories that you can share and last is personal stories, so your why you know how you got started.
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Why you do what you do what lights you up was a turning point.
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So in each of these, I mean, could you think of 10 problems your clients have or 10 frequently asked questions or 10 things people should ask you.
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10 clients stories pen personal stories you had easily each and every one of us i’m sure you can think of 10 stories.
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or 10 examples of each of this if all you did is put 10 of each that’s or 50 videos you want a video week that’s a year’s worth of content right there.
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Okay, so coming up with ideas is not the challenge they’re coming up with ideas as other channels are we feeling this coming up with that is not the challenge we got we got too many ideas you got that.
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The next piece is we got to move forward the equipment Okay, so people go what gear Do I need to be on video Okay, no problem.
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This is the.
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The top fear is tremendous I need to buy a lot of extra equipment, you know I need to have a lot of year I don’t have access to a studio.
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I see videos on YouTube these days they got studios I got setups for professional, this is about being professional get started, I.
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I wish I had a video of this if you see Joe rogan Joe rogan, by the way, Joe rogan’s podcast just did 100 million dollar deal to shift over to spotify 100 million he started 11 years ago, I urge you, I invite you go back to Joe rogan experience on YouTube and look at episode one.
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I do it it’s got they got this virtual background with like snowflakes going down it’s him and Brian red band his friend who’s a comedian.
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It looks like to cavemen that are trying to figure out fire, for the first time they had no idea what they’re doing.
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it’s just an absolute disaster, but they got started Joe rogan has the top podcast the world and just did a $100 million deal to shift over to spotify.
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But think about that they didn’t have an elaborate start get started today it’s not about having the perfect studio.
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The other piece too I don’t have hours to edit videos that’s a very common problem that comes up, we can overcome all of these, and the next piece.
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So let’s get clear with this required okay what’s required what’s needed to record a video very simple it’s going to take away a lot of excuses, so this is uncomfortable I hope this brace for this.
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One you need a cell phone to need a voice three courage that’s it that’s all you need that’s all you need this to her you don’t need thousands of dollars of gear you don’t need.
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Assistance on the track you don’t need all of it all you just hold your phone out like this and go hey.
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blah blah blah blah blah, are you struggling with this, I can help you here that’s it that’s all we need to get started.
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oftentimes We fear that it’s going to be seen by too many people or how we can look most people are going to look at you go wow you’re putting yourself out there.
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i’m way too afraid to ever do that so first of all, what happens is our inner critic stops us from putting ourselves out there.
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Because we project our inner critic on other people we look at how much we looked at like oh my God the lighting is bad I don’t look good I don’t sound good this.
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If 100 people see it oh my God that’s 100 people criticizing me like that.
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they’re not going to criticize you the same when you criticize yourself our inner critic is always the worst we’re going to look they look at you go wow you’re so courageous I can’t believe you did it you get started this is i’m envious of you.
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that’s what’s going to happen okay it’s going to happen is can start this this movement now next level equipment, if you want it’s not needed but next of equipment.
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it’s simply get a tripod with a phone holder.
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You go on Amazon like 100 bucks you get like a newer kit just like any wr you got that it’s a ring light with the cell phone holder boom you got your light and your tripod all in 100 bucks.
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Okay got that microphone they got the there’s good microphones out there for like $25 $30 you can get started, you don’t need a pro kit.
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I have the pro can I got the zoom over there, I don’t even use it, because it pisses me off, because then, I have the video, then I got there and then I got link the two together it’s just a nightmare i’m like.
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I wish I could return it but i’m past the return date I can’t do it just get a micro a lapel MIC wired clip to your phone clip but i’m sure you’re good to go.
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And lastly, if you want the relay but my suggestion, get a ring light with the tripod hold it with a phone holder in it that’s a two in one.
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For you know, like $120 you have a kit that’s going to really it’s going to be great for at least the first two years okay you don’t need to spend a lot of money.
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editing videos Okay, this is the one.
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you’ve got options, one is a an APP called can master six $7 a month or like $40 for the year it’s cheap, if you want to do it on your on your phone, you can do that I wouldn’t recommend it, though, because it just takes way too much time.
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Your time is worth way more than editing your own videos outsource it go to fiber up work get a freelancer.
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Pregnant costly like 10 $15 you can get somebody to edit your videos for you okay you, the last thing is.
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very effective use of your time, you can do way more high leverage things like.
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Do videos and get your offer out there to get more clients, that is a way better use of your time.
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Our source of fiber upward calm get a freelancer there’s a lot of options out there, video editing is not the thing that you want to waste your time on okay trust me on that you don’t want to do it it’s a nightmare it’s a nightmare it’s not worth it okay.
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Now step three is how to be confident video so we got we know what to say the ideal client in mind so you’re making the targeted video for them.
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You ever topics problem solution, those are problems frequent ask questions should ask questions objections clients stories all this got ideas for that.
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You got the gear got the phone the voice the permission that’s all it is now how to be confident, this is the real part Okay, this is the real part that matters.
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Now the fears that come up is I don’t want to look bad that’s the first one, I want to do it, but i’m afraid i’m gonna look bad well Lucas, what if I look bad okay well what, if you look good.
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What if you look at what if you get started a new powerful journey that’s the first one, I don’t look bad second i’m not the top expert.
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i’m not the world’s top expert in my industry, so therefore I can’t put myself on video you know when I got there the irony with this one is how do you become the topics for.
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You get a lot of exposure So how do you get exposure you put yourself on video so The irony is people go they go oh.
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One of the top expert then i’ll put myself out there, it happens, by putting yourself out there, and this isn’t about being the topics are this about being able to add value.
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You have information is invaluable and that can help your clients okay check give yourself permission to put your message out there that’s all it takes it’s a it’s an internal game so it’s not about external.
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i’ll put videos out if they’re perfect and well received this one, this one comes up a lot right of the video is perfect and as well received i’ll put it out there.
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Again I just finished the first round of confident video, this is one of the top things that comes up like oh it’s perfectly look nobody cares they’re impressed that you put yourself out there.
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That background hissing noise of your audio no one’s paying attention to it.
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they’re just looking to go like wow I can’t believe they did that it’s inspirational okay it’s never going to be perfect so that’s one thing to realize.
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Your videos will never be perfect so just embrace it okay imperfect action over perfect in action that’s, the key to move forward with this.
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And lastly, people go oh I struggled for years, but this and I don’t think it’s possible it’s like Okay, no problem, maybe you struggled with confidence or self image.
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or anxiety and fear about putting yourself out there that’s okay just know that it’s not a death sentence because confidence it’s a skill okay it’s a skill it’s not a gift.
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it’s not something that people either have or they don’t have that’s one of the top mistakes people make they think oh i’m introverted oh it doesn’t come natural to me.
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This is a skill in any school can be it can be acquired with dedicated time and practice, I promise you I bet people, especially with speak with confidence, they came in, they wanted to sit in their.
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Paper shaking they got a heat rash coming up their neck.
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And within two days, the same woman, she said, I remember, she was going to quit her job she because she thought she was doing such a bad job it was it was taking her company’s reputation down it’s like i’m terrible for this i’m hurting the reputation, she was going to quit.
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And it was her dream job she got up their day to she stood up there she’s like oh my God my heart’s not racing it doesn’t feel like it’s gonna explode.
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And she kept saying like this miracle, this is a miracle I can’t believe it’s happening because what happened was shit overcome and face for inner critic.
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She had to see how hard she wasn’t herself beating yourself constantly should see that she was afraid of polarizing.
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People maybe not liking her or not agreeing with her message, she was afraid of standing tall and really owning that that space, these are the fears, you need to overcome.
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I guarantee you inside of it, you have it, you can do it too so it’s not it’s not a magic trick that somebody has now, this is the proprietary process, I take people through and we’ll go through this.
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The six steps it’s called a higher confidence, this is the same step if it’s a tedx speaker or something deathly afraid of speaking.
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or confident video this is same process, I take everybody through the six steps, the first is compassion.
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And sometimes people look at they go compassion, what does that have to do it has everything to do with it that’s why it’s that the bottom is the foundation.
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it’s going from your number one biggest critic to number one fan.
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That is the limiter if you are not I don’t care how polished you are.
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If all you’re hearing is oh my God I look so terrible I made all these mistakes i’m not as good as everybody else look at these people are so much better than me you’re never going to put yourself out there.
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You will never put yourself on, so we have to start with that self love and that compassion that’s the Foundation second is commitment.
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Getting clear what are you going for you have to go beyond yourself.
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Because you can let yourself down easy this, you have to go further, if to go beyond yourself it’s about making contribution to the world is that being a role model for your family for your community.
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for being a stand for adding value, you have to have a clear commitment and goal of what you’re working towards third step is courage.
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and courage i’ll get into details, but these three, these are three that i’ll dress today the other four or sorry the other three steps, four, five and six that takes longer.
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We can’t we don’t have time to get into it, but it’s competence and confidence is about doing something over and over again, getting relevant experience conviction is really owning it and speaking with passion and power.
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And the last is confidence, and confidence is belief in yourself and your abilities and that takes time.
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Because here’s the thing it’s not a it’s not an overnight shift because it’s been years and sometimes decades of conditioning and fear that led you to where you are.
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it’s not an overnight switch, but we can get started lecturing and today i’m gonna share with you three steps, especially with this piece will cover compassion commitment and encouraged to get you started.
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So first is compassion, when we start off with this is reducing your inner critic so with this taken this way progress not perfection.
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Progress not perfection say it with me progress not perfection this isn’t about perfection, that is an elusive term it’s never going to come.
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it’s about focusing on the progress that piece celebrate the action, not the result, a lot of times clients will say Oh, if I have an amazing video and it gets.
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You know X amount 1000 views then it’s the success in anything less as a feeler it doesn’t matter.
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It doesn’t matter about the start Gary vader trucks first videos 30 views 40 views Joe rogan they didn’t have an audience, but they started.
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It started you can’t you don’t get focused on results celebrate the action, focusing on the game, not the gap.
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This one comes back to give yourself credit for how far you’ve come not how far you still have to go.
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oftentimes get caught in the gap oh i’m not close to my idols from a role models or other people industry well close that gap by focusing on how far have you come it’s easy to push off, and you know it’s funny I just wrapped up confident video.
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On Thursday, and the one thing people saying like I can’t believe how much this was really about personal development.
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And then I was only I was the only person to get in my way and, of course, that is what that’s what it is it’s not technical, you are an expert in what you do, you have your information, you know what you do you know who you help.
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there’s nobody stopping us but us it’s all personal development it’s all personal development.
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So that’s why we have to start with this compassion and last one here is that you deserve to attract people that align with you, and a lot of times when people are doing videos in the beginning.
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they’re operating from a place of scarcity of desperation or any clients I want clients versus hang on.
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know you deserve to get people that are aligned with you, if you’re not a fit that’s okay go find somebody else, but when you sit there, and you able to say, like I deserve high quality clients.
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that’s what sets you for okay so even some of this some of this feeling that I deserve even before you do videos think about this, I deserve to.
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Work and attract people that align with me, it makes a complete shift in how you show up okay so even a An example of this with compassion this Teddy.
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Teddy came in obviously not a picture of them, but this is his stats i’ll share with you a quick story with with Teddy he came into this confident video, and this was six weeks ago.
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You had a YouTube channel for years, but he hadn’t put out any videos you’ve got a couple here and there, nothing consistent.
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came in, why it was because inner critic was too high, he was comparing yourself to other fitness trainers not being good enough picking apart every single mistake, so it was never good enough to put out there.
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We addressed some of the self images issues that were coming up, and he recorded two videos in three weeks that’s all it wasn’t lot two videos three weeks, he put them on his channel.
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And again it’s not a huge subscribers but just look at the gains month, you know he’s up from 98 225 videos again in three weeks up 27.
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His view or just skyrocketing he’s got 755 us up Twitter 48% watch time up, for you know 50, but what is watch time is up 156% These are big numbers, even in small channel.
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So it really shows that just putting yourself out it builds it up you don’t have to be this massive brand to do it, we have to start small and then you can build up a.
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But if you’re not starting in these places, you can’t you can’t move forward with it.
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And lastly, we saw a boosted channel and he’s actually starting to get clients from social media and putting his video, but the important part is that he’s got a system in place.
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And now he has a confidence to put videos out there he’s actually excited and when you put videos out there, and you confront those fears and you start getting it’s like a positive feedback loop.
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wow people are viewing this oh wow this is working, this is good that’s where the confidence starts building okay that’s really confidence really starts building.
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The second piece is commitment now with this you got it clear on who you are today won’t get you to your goals okay got you to where you are today and that’s okay.
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But in order to change you change it become a different person, because if that was the case you’d be doing it right now you’d be on video you’d be putting your message out there.
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And it’s not that to make to feel bad about it but it’s also to realize that I need to take a new action you know, maybe it’s like let’s say here.
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The sign right do something that scares you every day, maybe that’s a deviation of if I become that person I do something that scares me every day that’s going to allow me to start building up to become that person I need to become to fulfill my message and fulfill my destiny.
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You must break through the familiar zone I don’t believe in the comfort zone, I believe in the familiar zone anything that you do consistently becomes familiar.
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And that’s a big piece here, because you got to break through it okay i’m leaving the familiar zone and i’m going to move into something that’s unfamiliar okay that’s further the changes really happen.
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get very clear on who you serve, who is it that i’m here to serve.
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This is bigger than you they’re waiting for you to show up that was one of the biggest takeaways from confident video was what people mentally in their in their mindset, like my ideal clients are waiting for me to show up.
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Your ideal clients are here they’re waiting for you to show up this and there’s they’re struggling.
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they’re struggling actually one of my clients when we talked about it go, what are you taking away from this she said i’m going to stop being an asshole and greedy.
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And not put my course out there, say I can’t believe how selfish i’ve been it was her own fears of looking bad and and not being good enough and not ready that held her back she’s got valuable information that can help people.
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But she was holding back from sharing and the other piece, too, is just focus beyond yourself your role model Okay, this is beyond you this is about your family your friends community.
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big picture, my mission is to turn it so that the number of fear this fear of public speaking there’s no way that should exist, it is our birthright that we come in fully self expressed.
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And it’s an absolute it’s just it’s just.
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it’s terrible that people are not speaking the truth and they’re not putting themselves out there and that’s when we can shift this momentum, and you can be part of this.
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by shifting this momentum where you’re up here and you’re showing that is possible to speak in public.
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that’s just going to build it up where people go wow, it is possible there’s other role models that are doing it, and maybe I can’t do so you got to go beyond yourself and focus on being a role model.
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And third piece here is courage and this is really the biggest piece courage is taking action in the face of uncertainty okay.
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So when you’re doing that don’t even own your uniqueness what What is special what is unique about you that’s where we want to start people go oh.
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Who do I need to be to fit in no that’s the fastest way to lose that’s the way to be commodity now stand up just imagine that you’re going an ice cream shop.
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You want to get some ice cream there’s like 50 flavors you’re not going to walk by and going oh there’s vanilla.
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The exotic flavors stand out oh wow look at that that’s exotic whoo chocolate bacon or whatever wasabi whatever it is like these exotic flavors standout colors.
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it’s the same with you, you are unique don’t be don’t even know.
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And I see something to chat box somebody always says, I get vanilla and I don’t know what is on a desk doesn’t even say and i’m going to ignore that statement.
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that’s one person out of 50 everybody else beauty Okay, maybe i’m not going to look at that I don’t want to speak your truth to attract your tribe.
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Okay don’t be afraid of the crowd speak your truth to attract your tribe go look, this is what I.
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believe in this is what I stand for this is, who I work with if this is you let’s work together it’s not it’s nothing personal if they’re a fit or fit if they’re not there’s a million other options, and they can find.
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It so it’s not personal but it’s about you deserving to attract your ideal clients and you put yourself out authentically that you’re able to track them.
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third piece here, you must polarize to monetize this can be a tough one, but in order to be loved you must be this like.
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Okay, this is a hard truth for people to accept but it’s a very valuable in order for in order to be loved you must be just like.
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This is disliked by the world this isn’t hated, but when you’re standing in truth, some people, you know oh yeah I love that and others can go now, not for me i’m that way my business.
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Our training it’s a lot of personal development.
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Some people when I have calls with them they’ll say hey.
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I just want the best practice I don’t wanna I don’t want to do introspection I don’t want to look at my fears I don’t want.
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just give me the best practice, give me the script that they will say that give me the give me the script give me the right words but I look, you know what is better option for you.
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Because I know the scripts the words it’s not going to help you.
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If you’re putting yourself out there that’s really obstacle and it’s not a good fit they’re not they’re not ready or they’re open to look inside that’s cool.
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When you’re ready come talk to me but i’m not going to change, who I am or what I believe in.
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To try to sell you and you’re not gonna have a good time it’s going to be the service, you find the person is going to help you right now on your path when you’re ready to step in will do some damage good.
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And lastly, with courage it’s taking action in the face of uncertainty, this is a big one think about videos putting yourself out there.
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People want oh are people going to like this is it going to go over well it’s going to be perfect you’ll never have an answer to those questions you’ll never have that answer.
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So it’s about conditioning yourself to take action goal don’t know how it’s going to go let’s see what comes up and you put yourself out there.
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When you take this on that’s where you get the most courage inside of you that’s where you really able to step up and play the game okay.
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So if you have questions put them in i’m going to just kind of wrap up here, but if you have questions that you have for me i’m happy to answer anything that you have.
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In the section, let me know but i’m gonna i’m gonna wrap up here, this is what is that it’s about becoming a line okay this about losing.
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The fear of the crowd it’s about face in the crowd with courage and allowing that powerful roar to put yourself out there okay now with this.
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Sometimes people ask me Okay, you know why entrepreneurs need to be on video, they will do it.
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They get overwhelmed they’re not sure where to start but they don’t have accountability and support they don’t have templates and trainings to achieve their goals.
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They don’t have the Community or a place to practice and afraid of looking bad for their clients So these are obstacles like I you know you know you need to put yourself on video.
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But don’t know where to start don’t have that accountability don’t support the templates to take too long put together the Community that’s going to really inspire you to move forward we’re afraid of looking bad for your clients, this makes total sense.
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We don’t have access to a mentor you know who’s doing it or is going to help you fast track your success is a very, these are the top obstacles that.
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consistently come up for the self doubt the inner game self doubting you know the inner critic the imposter syndrome, you know, lack of courage jumping all these pieces Come on, these are the top obstacles.
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So people know what they need to do they know they need to be on video, but these are obstacles that come up.
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And this is what stops them from really from taking that one decision that one action is going to change your life and impact their clients and really allow them to serve.
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The world in a much powerful place, especially during this time, and so you might be asking okay that sounds great but what’s next, what do you have, how can it help you help me.
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it’s very simple you got a couple options here option one don’t do anything, be like hey that was cool.
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i’m glad some oh yeah polarized don’t monetize yeah okay that sounds good and do nothing with it yeah but that’s not you you’re here, because you want to actually take action, but it’s an option, you can do nothing that’s totally an option.
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To you can try to do it yourself okay that sounds good, let me try to do myself thing is, if you haven’t done it now.
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Probably not gonna happen, but you could you could be fired up, I really hey that sounds good.
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definitely want try it yourself, it might take you a lot more time costs more money opportunity costs and frustration, but it’s an option as well.
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And third option, you want to you know get support and guidance from mentor if it’s something like me like hey I want to know more about what you do i’m going to.
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go into that quickly if you want my help this is what we do.
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Confident video is the course I have a suit their own you’ll never see me wearing a suit after i’ve shifted to myself and I didn’t do it, but the pictures look good, so I keep them up.
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But this is this is how I show up, but it is it’s a combo videos of course that we have it’s very simple, this is actually Jackie one of our clients.
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My first official public very scary a video it was amazing he works, he works for financial planning company, and you know look look it’s 128 views.
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And he sat there, he was blown away with it, some people look at it like 128 that’s garbage he was like 128 people know who I am 100 820 people have seen my message.
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120 people know that I exist because he was like that would take me years worth of coffee meetings to set up coffee 128 people.
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And just by doing this, one video it confronted the hell out of them.
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But the fact they did it it got this, many of us right away so think about this is that each view is a potential client, these are people that know who you are.
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So we have a six week it’s an amazing course it’s a six week online course it’s live again so you’re not watching pre recorded.
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Your live, we have calls on Mondays we have training calls that you’re actually there you’re going to show up you’re gonna be committed.
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They are recorded as well if you can’t make it, but my my invitation always to be there live.
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We have the video to victory method and it’s a step by step, four and it’s beautiful it’s a four step framework it’s a.
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it’s a PDF or you put all your content ideas there’s a script how you script out your video there’s a pre video checklist and it was a post video how you review your videos.
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That you refine is a really important the beautiful thing is, it gives you a one stop shop have all your ideas.
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You have to go hunt and have them all scattered, so one document centralized makes it so easy to put your videos together so you’re not wasting time it’s very easy to do.
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We have six training calls so live training calls, we also have six Q amp a support calls, so the the training calls or Monday Monday mornings.
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Thursdays, we have support calls, and this is an open forum you show up here’s the I say expect resistance expect opposite expect for years to come up.
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Because it’s going to come up and that’s okay that’s showing that you’re entering your hero’s journey you’re just getting started.
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And it’s an open forum where you go you say hey i’m starting with this we work it through, we guide you on this we help you overcome it so you literally cannot fail only if you don’t if you don’t show up well that’s on you, but if you show up.
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you’re supported completely we got that we also have a safe supportive environment to thrive.
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So the first two weeks, the program we have a private Facebook group just for the conference video clients and we get started do a video posted up in the group.
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Because you getting that experience of the winds that’s confronting enough putting a video up in a Facebook group, but when you’re amongst peers you’re not being judged you’re being supported.
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that’s the momentum it’s the same methods that I use.
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In the mental hospital to get out of that it’s the exposure therapy it’s the same thing start small.
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get these little wins these little exposure and then you start opening up so same is the same method same methods of tedx speakers say methods going to help you get your message out and video so that you win.
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The next one starts up in July so July six there Mondays again they’re Mondays Monday mornings, and we have Thursday support calls.
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And it’s actually beautiful program just put this together, given to me, we have six zoom training, so there the zoom to record it and get six five training calls.
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You have lifetime access to all recordings there and I think if excite you have lifetime access to it get the six live support calls with myself I do.
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I answer any questions you have any obstacles that are holding you back, and we do video breakdowns so you say hey Lucas, I want you to look at my video you put in I watched the video I give a live critique this is good make these changes.
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that’s an invaluable piece to have somebody that’s they’re giving you the feedback of your videos.
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membership to the Facebook group again exclusive group just for the people in the course so that we’re able to support each other and give feedback cheer each other on.
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And it’s a safe at the biggest thing it’s a safe environment to get that skill to get going with it.
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You get all the video scripts templates content calendar everything that you need makes easy to plan your content.
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Expert training, so I bring in an expert copywriter to teach you how to write compelling.
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titles that hook your ideal clients, we have a voice coach that comes in, she does a training on how to use your voice, which is very powerful for video otherwise we’ll burn it out.
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We have a lighting expert comes in how to set your lights in your studios in your you know your background like this.
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This isn’t some professional, so this is my living room Okay, I just have a fake wall of fake wall and a fake plant.
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that’s you don’t need these elaborate studios i’ve been running trainings on this all day for years now, you don’t need these.
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Big elaborate studios go on Amazon you get a fake background in photography background you don’t need this stuff makes it so simple.
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So we get expert trainings with that and you’ll see a ticket to a three day thought leader.
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Thought leader masterclass and that’s the one that i’m running right now is today get a ticket for that, too, so it’s amazing value it’s a really it’s a comprehensive.
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program that takes you, step by step, everything you need guidance support accountability technical tools everything that you need to become confident video.
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The value of it it’s $2,000 or sorry yeah it’s 47 4700 is total value of you add it up prices two grand.
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Two grand if all you do is get the power to put yourself and you make that money back very easy, can you make the money back very easy.
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just getting a couple clients, by putting yourself video maybe the wind up doing it and really getting ahead of your competition it’s something that’s easy to do i’ll definitely.
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pay off and value very easily but it’s i’m 2000 when I know her she’s she’s a tough cookie she’s okay there’s money master you got to just squeeze me for a deal as I know, probably will do it.
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quince tribe special 997 is that it’s the price against gets you everything, so it gets you the six calls six weeks.
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All the support it’s going to get you from A to Z to become confident video okay.
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So that’s The thing that i’ll leave you with, and the next step is all you gotta do is book a call, I want to have a call with you just to make sure that’s the right fit.
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So I don’t want to do pressure sales, I want to see, I want to make sure that’s right fit and i’m or, if you will get the call will get clarity on what the specific challenges are because, if I can help you I don’t want take your money.
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But if I can’t help you I want you to join that program because that’s going to change your life okay so with that will rock off that made me so.
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Lucas em i’m going to jump out of here and get the link i’ll put in the chat box or if somebody could do that that’d be amazing.
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Because Lucas and get revenue, please help it in the in the chat box Thank you so much, and you know what I actually I was at Lucas live event, and I know at that time.
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We were selling 2000 and, for some reason, I know that it was the last minute, so you give me amazing deal.
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But here’s the thing I took Lucas program and I have been in a lot of speakers trainings I have paid $5,000 for three days and look his his event is only 2000.
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And, but here’s the thing if you are scared of talking in public if you’re scared of getting on videos on cameras.
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This is the perfect program for you, because I think that the other programs, you will find that.
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I don’t think Lucas, can I mean I don’t think other people have been through Lucas journey, so the difference between Lucas and other trainers is that if you’re scared of speaking Lucas is the one to go to.
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So if you don’t if you’re not afraid of speaking then take anyone take any program, but if you are scared of speaking then go with Lucas that’s my perfect perfect.
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suggestion for you yeah that’s a great point you raised going because you know here’s the thing a lot of a lot of speaking trainings they focus on.
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On the technical side they focus on staging and where to stand and what’s the message and that’s all valuable, but the one thing that I found, you have the tedx level.
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it’s not the content that gets in the way it’s not the content that stops people.
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it’s a self doubt is the imposter syndrome it’s not feeling like you’re good enough it’s that comparison trap looking at other people going like oh my God there’s so much further ahead than me, so I don’t even try.
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And and that’s what really comes up and holds people back and it’s the inner game it’s this isn’t it, the reason that our training program works is that this is an inside out process.
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You want to shine on stage is a very it’s a very different approach and like I said most speaker trainings they come from the presentation angle, I come from the personal development world.
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And it’s okay if you’re going to shine on stage this is inside out, we got to go inside what’s going on there, what fears are coming up, and you know I had a client with confident video.
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She was saying that she was the youngest of of nine children and growing up, I never felt like I was heard.
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And that was the pattern that came with like this is the type of stuff that comes up you know it could be that or it could be somebody that was abused and told.
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No don’t tell anybody maybe somebody that was, I had a guy my class right now his name is Milan and he was around the air have.
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been lot and he was bullied in tormented for it and you know just just the world wasn’t safe and it wasn’t safe for him to put himself out there and that’s what he’s working on right now.
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And so, everyone has their own journey and wherever you are, but when we come inside we get clear and you give yourself permission to one question is Is it safe.
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is a world of safe place that’s the one question that dictates who thrives and who retracts because when it’s not safe we’re gonna Armor up because we’re afraid of getting hurt again.
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And when it safe you give yourself permission to shine and to attract people and that’s that’s the real difference there, so if people have any questions definitely hit me up so if you have a question actually look at the other last speaker, so I can go over time so that’s not a problem.
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I know you have a ton of value to offer so here, I want to reward you if you’re still here let’s let’s let’s ask Lucas questions.
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So if you have questions raise your hand, so I can see you, and then we can answer them and if not, I mean that was phenomenal Thank you, by the way, if you enjoyed his teach his training his teaching.
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Type in the chat box like value tell me you got value out of this, I totally did and i’ve heard Lucas many times and i’ve been his three days program i’ve been on his six weeks program like i’ve eaten.
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And i’ve liked I mean i’ve enjoyed his his training so much and I thought that, so this weekend i’m bringing three kinds of speakers to you, the ones who are.
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Sorry, when does one thing here so somebody said, thank you have your contact July doesn’t work, we absolutely i’ll be relaunching it in.
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I just got to figure out the dates there’s another woman from Atlanta said July didn’t work.
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And it’s i’ll be relaunching it it’s going to be September September, October, so if that’s something definitely go lock it in because the price is going to go back to this and that’s.
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Some bullshit sales tactic either, but i’m being legit with you honor and just reach out to me, so I know who you are.
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And so, then I can, I can tell you into that yes, so this this program and this.
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price tag 2000 is his regular price, and I was paying for that, like two month note that was last year, when you did it like you’ve always done this at $2,000 yeah exactly but because now with coven and with an online and he’s.
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A look is this is his first Well, this is the second time now, but he’s done he’s finally going online so he’s been doing this like offline in person, all these years but finally has converted to go online.
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And i’m so happy, you did look as it is, but here’s the thing, so if you are truly afraid of speaking Lucas is a program for you, I have two other speakers trainers, who are coming my Kimberly was one of them and then.
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Eric admits oh my God, you should totally come back tomorrow, or is it something I forgot his time but look at his calendar.
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Like, I have three experts on speaker public speaking and they all can take you.
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From stage to stage, depending on where you are if you’re absolutely scared of speaking right now Lucas is the program for you yeah that’s a good point you know the other piece, too, is that a lot of people sometimes they they come in and they go Oh, I need to like.
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do a lot of talks and that’s so there’s people are deathly afraid, but then the other one is that they do a lot of talks.
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But they’re not fully showing up that is so true they might be themselves yeah showing up as someone else yep and they’re not authentic and you know what the key to attracting.
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The perfect client for you is for you to show up as yourself this this I mean his training lucas’s training is all about that yeah for sure don’t forget, if you have any questions put in the chat box or raise your hand whatever i’d be happy to answer.
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Anything that that you got I think you you deliver so good that there’s no questions right no still it was still good it was so.
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Joe was asking if you have if he’s able to get your slides do you have like a PDF version that that you can do people know I can do that I could.
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Just save this as a PDF and that’ll be awesome because I mean it was so good, by the way, guys, the previous speaker young he he changed the price already back to 97 at my request, so if you wanted to sign up for that this is not that is something else sorry.
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hold on, let me get his link.
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it’s called here but but Lucas, I absolutely love love what you’re doing, but more for the world for all the people who was trying to.
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reclaim their voice I love that yeah that’s the thing the biggest the biggest the biggest fear in the world, in my opinion, is to be fully seen and heard.
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And and there’s a lot to live with it actually government these addictions specialist he talks about that we’re when we’re born it’s attachment versus authenticity.
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Because we’re completely dependent our parents and so.
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we’re fully self expressed, but there’s also this fear it’s like when you’re self expressed the parents, sometimes you’re like hey like keep it down.
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stop acting out and then you have to trade off your authenticity for for acceptance.
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And so that that trade off keeps happening and it builds a pattern where it’s you’re creating a condition, where it’s not safe to be fully self expressed and fully authentic.
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And that’s why this is really it’s it’s about bringing that joy and that childlike enthusiasm back where like I just be unleashed and just put your message out and have fun.
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because so many of my clients when they come it’s like Well, this is what we do love a lot.
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You know, is this is a funeral or is this a presentation like what, what are we doing here.
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And so, not have more fun with it right, because some people are going to be turned off by it, but, but you got to be able to really just go for it.
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The other thing that I really picked up from your talk was if you want to be loved you have to be willing to be disliked yeah that was like holy cow that that should be framed.
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No it’s true, though I mean even I looked at I looked up a thing on Gandhi, the day and some people.
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Somebody said he was like a terrorist, he was a terrorist against the government is country, and you know and there’s people talking shit about Mother Teresa and i’m like.
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If they’re if people are talking about about them, I have no chance.
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To accept that it’s like I need to accept it, that okay if those people are getting ripped apart.
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I got no chance, and you know the other piece, too, is a lot of fear I didn’t talk about but fear is what if I go on YouTube and I get troll comments okay this happens to me.
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First of all, anybody who’s putting troll comments they’re not in a good place in their life, nobody who’s in a good place in life are going around.
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rat you know ranting and saying mean things about other people, but the other piece, too, is it’s not it’s not a judgment of who you are.
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it’s a judgment of a snapshot of how you showed up so, even if they come like it’s not an assassination of a character you’re an amazing person.
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But they’re just looking at in the reacting and the thing is to you never know you know, maybe it’s maybe it’s that people they don’t.
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They just don’t like it or brings up something inside of them and they just they just lash out it’s it’s Okay, because if people aren’t reacting to it like an emotion that’s not gonna happen.
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phenomenal I love love love what you’re doing and.
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I so want everyone to actually speak up and reclaim the voice.
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Because that is the single most powerful way for you to grow your business, but also, and also wants to grow your business but also just to.
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Help the world help the people help you up to your clients, because the fact that you’re unknown right now, the fact that you’re invisible right now is hurting other people.
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And that’s that’s why i’m coming on and i’m coming on large like as an i’ve been drinking water from the firehose the last two years and i’ve been creating content and doing these things and I have been sleeping at.
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The last like five days, putting this together that’s because I actually am so passionate about sharing all of these experts to you and also the work that i’m doing.
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it’s so it means so much to me, and I know that the minute that the longer I wait to put it out there, the more people is going to suffer and lose money.
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unnecessarily yeah we got to raise your hand oh wow that’s wonderful aromas unmute yourself, can you unmute and it just it, yes, thank you Lucas so i’m trying to envision your six weeks it’s a zoom and it’s a group.
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Is that what it is so participants.
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come in as as a participant, and you give us instructions i’m thinking homework and then what construction constructive criticism.
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Lifting or what, how is it totally totally so we come in every week we build up on it so actually it’s the six week the hierarchy of confidence we go through this compassion.
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Courage we build up and so Mondays it’s a group call it’d be similar to this and what we do is getting these calls.
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We go through it’s a good call so monday’s of the trainings and then there’s an assignment every week so it’s going to be one video put up in the Facebook group.
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And then thursday’s is okay what fears are coming up that are stopping you from doing it or what’s coming up what was hard and share that.
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And that’s why the Thursday support call so there’s and then the videos we have groups where you go through you get feedback on the Facebook.
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In the Facebook group on your videos what you did well what you can refine the first two weeks so.
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there’s zero negative feedback, because people are such a vulnerable state i’m like the fact that you’re putting it out there that’s the wind like I don’t care he he I private week one I call it dog shit video week.
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Try try to do is battle, the videos you possibly can, like let’s just take all the pressure off go like I am purposely trying to do a horrible video right now and look as bad as I possibly can.
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Because the opposite is people want to be perfect well let’s go the opposite side give yourself permission to be as horrible because we celebrate that one.
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And then the other piece of it makes me makes me feel better too, because then you go wow they went from there to there, like a for it but it’s also good for you to it’s good for you to see just that inner permission.
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To do that, that it’s so powerful and transformational to just say yes, because you know here’s the thing to the woman who was the youngest of nine, I was working with her and we got on I asked her like she’s like i’m deathly afraid of speaking this is this a powerhouse.
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motivational speaker except video was a different thing, and she said, you know Lucas i’m 50 years old.
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I don’t look like I used to look i’m self conscious about these things and video just brings everything to surface Okay, whatever i’m not in your shoes I don’t know what you want, but I can imagine i’m here for you.
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And we started going through it and just before she goes on, I go what’s really going on here.
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She told me the story about being the youngest nine not feeling like your voice matters not being heard and just before she record I go look before you do this.
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don’t do it for you do it for the nine year old girls inside of you that just wants to be heard and she sat there start crying.
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Okay i’m gonna do it, and she did it and then a minute, you know, whatever coming in, so you’re like oh my God, I did it she’s like shaky like I can’t believe I did it and she before actually I said i’m like hey we’re doing this today.
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She started calling me and actually your financial like this year so folks that.
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After she did it goes around she’s shaking she’s like I can’t believe I should look you’re still fucking awesome but.
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you’re supportive of it, so I said i’ll take that i’ve been called worse, and you know what here’s the thing to she did that she just completed.
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A 30 day YouTube series, where she was building her list every day for every day for 30 days it was she would do a video and put out through email, she said.
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blowing up my my my whatsapp send me these videos every day, please don’t do that, but it was good to see that she went from there to there.
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And it went from not feeling good enough and secure that’s the big thing is, you know, this is about, you know quitters alluding to is yes, building your business cool making more money is cool.
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But it’s really about like why the hell, are we on this planet we’re here to uplift we’re here to help people.
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and in doing so, this video yes it’s about helping people, but then the piece it’s about healing yourself that’s the biggest pieces that most they’ll never talk about that.
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This is about healing your younger self giving yourself permission to be heard and and seeing that you are good enough and when those kids believe you are they told you to be quiet.
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That know that at that time that’s what you did, but now you have a chance to go back and go full circle with it.
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Yes, and I think my the biggest thing that I got away from that I got from your event Lucas is one is be who I am show up as who I am and so and then for me I didn’t have the problem of showing up.
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unprepared and and you know, make a fool of myself, not so much a little bit, but I will look like you, you just rolled your eyes on me.
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Was you know what I got so much out of the three days, and also with on the course, right now, when it comes to public speaking this is the skill that you will forever improve.
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So you’re going to start from some point from somewhere, but you will always get to the next level.
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So if you feel like okay i’m like I know where I don’t even know where to start this you got to start and then, as you grow, you will become better.
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So I thank you so much for being in my life hey.
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Look at the reason I rolled my eyes is because that comes up all the time, people say to me oh yeah you know i’ve no problem is when I go live right just wing it i’m like yeah you know why because there’s no pressure.
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You don’t put pressure yourself because, like oh i’m just winging it because there’s no expectations and that’s okay to get you started, but to go to these levels where you’re going when i’m being specific to because I know you.
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I see where you’re going that’s where you have to be more strategic and so, if there is that pressure so when people say, like, I know, probably yeah that’s cool but.
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it’s also there’s levels to this neck, where you are going is to really stand your power it’s to get up and do those.
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Powerful when our talks and you’re doing amazing job leading this summit, but and also the next step is to go on the stages and the seminars to really to really reinforce that so.
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that’s that’s really good piece, and you know you mentioned, you know who you are here’s the deal i’ll leave i’ll leave your audience with this is, I was like a dispute people there’s.
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Who you’ve been told that you are i’m going through this right now with my clients, as well as top line tomorrow we’re doing this, who you’ve been told you are.
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Who you’ve been in the past and who you really are.
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three different levels we’ve been told a lot of times we’re in a very noisy world where people are projecting and telling us Oh, this is who you are, this is what you need to do, and if we want to be liked we’re gonna be.
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we’re gonna be affected by that we’re going to change we’re in become chameleons so who you’ve been told that you are this by outside noise, a lot of times, I had a client who’s an architect.
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52 years old came in was bawling on day three of my my training, because he realized that for last 30 years he’s been living his life going, what does an architect look like sound like and what do they do.
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he’s like i’ve been true to myself i’ve lost myself because i’ve been so wrapped up with expectations of that’s present we’ve been.
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we’ve been told that you are we’ve been the past will have pass you know, maybe you had what there’s rough part or whatever was.
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There Okay, even in my class right now we got a realtor that she’s opening up talking about her abusive past relationship.
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it’s okay that’s the past this isn’t what you have to be in that connection inspire people so who you’ve been in the past.
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It doesn’t limit you unless you allow yourself to be limited, and the third piece is who you are and deepen your core that’s think it’s the higher self versus lower self.
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We all have this and that’s what we do videos it’s.
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yeah Have you ever felt that, where you just like.
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I know when i’m on fire and i’m just so focused.
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I can absolutely put my message out there and I could take on the world that can really be that powerful either they want and then there’s other days that maybe go to go live and like oh my God i’m not good enough and look these other people i’m not prepared all these.
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it’s it’s the duality it’s a higher self or slower self and just really acknowledge that just observing going well, these are two different characters.
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And the thing is that the lower self it’s a liar it’s just trying to keep you from growing so just acknowledging don’t get angry people get angry.
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No anger needs to be director just acknowledge him Okay, thank you, observe you.
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i’m not gonna allow you to hold me back and that’s the piece to move forward with it and.
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And that’s that’s the journey so three types, you know who you’ve been told you are we’ve been the past and who you really are and that’s the whole journey here is really clear with who are you.
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Who are you and the more you get clear on that, and this just disconnect from all the noise and the past getting the presence and be like in your in your heart what you really desire was to change that you really want to make that’s where you’ll get into your full power.
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that’s amazing that’s a great way to wrap up today Thank you so much Lucas overtime going overboard and give us so much great content.
01:18:58.260 –> 01:19:03.060
you’re most welcome it’s my pleasure and again if it sounds like something you’re interested in book called.
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Trust me if it’s not a good fit I don’t want to work with you because it’s it’s bad for my reviews it’s not good.
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reputation matters to me and I want you to really make a difference, so I know it’s inside of you, and again if it’s if it seems like a fit that’s interested book a call.
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If not, please do find somebody else because the world is going to suffer when we’re not sharing your message.
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And you have a message inside of you, so if it’s me or for somebody else it doesn’t matter find the person that’s going to align with you and it’s going to spark you to give yourself that permission to put your message out there and we all win.